I prepare food 1-2 (sometime 3 on odd ocassions) times per day - 5-6 days per week, wash up dishes 2-3 times per day 5-6 days per week (except for dinner dishes Wed, Fri, Sat and Sun, my D does Fri and Sat and DH does Wed and Sunday), organise weekly food shop, all the cleaning - hoovering, mopping and dusting down stairs. My D hoovers up stairs and i dust. clean the 2 bathrooms, iron my own clothes, and pay the larger (2/3rds) part of the bills and mortgage, including weekly food shop and maintain the holiday travel costs and travel insurance minus the spending money (when we go away)
DH prepares dinner once/twice per week, does dinner dishes twice per week, does the family's laundry every week and irons their clothes only, makes the bed daily if your last in it, change the bed when it needs changing, contributes to the bills, including top up when a bit more needs to be paid, i.e. during winter months. Does the garden when needed during the summer months, puts out the bins.
DH now works part time 1-3 days per week following major surgery 3 years ago. And is studying for a degree via OU.
I work full time from home.
DH thinks they do more than most, and that by me asking them to contribute more i want them under the thumb and to fail.
AIBU