To not expect DP to take it out on me when his clients are pissed off

[lucyellensmum]

due to his lack of organisational skills.

He then expects me to fob them off for him - because he is "anxious about difficult situations" like that.

Last night i refused to contact a client for him by email and fob him off further, he has not spoken to me since .

YANBU

Have read other posts about your DH and his business. Is he really up to running it? It seems he can't handle a lot of the more challenging situations very well.

To be totally honest, i've had enough. I bear the brunt of the guilt for our financial difficulties. But we are waiting on money from a job that was supposed to take him three weeks and has taken three months!!!! Im not joking, i wish i was.

I want out, im sitting here trying to find the words to tell him.

LEM - you are in an impossible situation with your DH and his business. You were given a lot of very good advice the other day. It's all very well to keep posting about your latest woes, but you need to break this cycle. He is not coping with his business. You are not there to prop him up indefinitely. You need to be proactive.

Sorry if that sounds harsh. But your posts are fairly frequent and the situation is NOT getting better. He won't change. You need to. Do what you said you would do the other day. Tell him there are bills to pay, a roof to keep over your head, food to put on the table. Tell him you have had enough - you are going to take steps to make the situation better.

LEM - I think the time has come now to say enough is enough. I have read your increasingly desperate and sad threads over the past few months and I really think that you need to say that it is either me or the business and go and get a job with a reagular income. If i remember rightly if a business isn't working after 3 years then it is not going to. You are getting increasingly in debt and it is not fair on you or your DD. Your husband is not a busineesmand, neither is mine. He used to do handyman stuff and carpentry but was not bringing in a big enough income. We now run a differnet business and is successful, but he has nothing to do with the finance side, that is what I do. And the relief is so much better. Sorry if this sounds harsh but I really think your sanity is at stake.

he has just told me he is giving up the business, not because he can't cope with things, but because of ME!!!

maybe he is right, but without me to fob his clients off, he might well struggle even more. I cant even look at him without feeling resentment

Well he would wouldn't he? He's not going to admit he's not up to it.
Ignore him. Get on with your life.

He is not right, he is pissed of that he couldn't make it work and he istakimg it out on you but yes he is making the right decision and now you need to ensure that he sticks with it.

LEM - I dont know anything much about your troubles BUT i have a thought from what you have said before he is a fine builder but lacks the skills needed to run the business side - why dont YOU take this on and run it as a family company? with finnces and book keeping and customer lliason being your dept??

You could claim tax releif and and a wage and maybe build up quite a lucrative business.