To not get Back in touch after saying I would?

[IfyouStealMySunshine]

We broke up a month ago. He didn’t want to.
He asked me to contact him after a month just to say if I really meant it/was sure (we did break up previously for 2 months and got Back together) but I really do mean it and know I’ve made the right decision.

Ive been sad of course but after the original conversation I blocked him across all social media and have no regrets but now it’s been a month do I just leave him blocked? I have nothing at his house, I do still have his key which I only realised a few days ago but am sending that recorded delivery tomorrow.

Should I unblock just to tell him I haven’t changed my mind?

Depends on the personality of the boyfriend and how things were towards the end of the relationship.

If he has always been respectful of you and this will help him move on, and you have no fear of him/it wouldnt open a can of worms, I would probably do it.

If you have any concerns at all about him, think fine to leave it and prioritise yourself

If it's because he was a bit of a shit (or whatever) no, don't contact.
If he's basically OK, but just not for you, then yes, just send a msg to reiterate.

No don’t contact him. That won’t help either of you. Sending the key back is the right thing to do and enough of a sign to say it’s over.

I'd just pop a note in with the key to say, 'You asked me to make contact after a month, I haven't changed my mind, and am now sure that I made the right decision, so am returning your key'.

Well if your agreed to it, why wouldn’t you follow it though and then just reblock? Otherwise why agree to it in the first place? Or put a note in with the key as the PP wisely suggests.

I like closure and like that for others too, so would simply write on the back of the envelope with the key, or a message with the key. "Have not changed my mind. All the best for the future."

Just put a note in with the key. "I haven't changed my mind."

You youngsters go mad with all this dramatic blocking on everything. Unless he was harassing you, it’s just nasty. It is possible to behave decently to exes.

Note in with key

But it's about how easy it is to make contact with someone through those channels. It's the equivalent of tearing up their phone number or address. You want to make sure you don't get in touch in a weak moment.

If I didn't want him to contact me to whine or whinge, I'd block. And I'm not young or particularly dramatic

It's about self preservation and privacy

This is my thought too

I’m not young. I’d block because I’ve had a crazy stalker ex and I’d prefer a clean ending.

@IfyouStealMySunshine just stick a note in with the key to say you haven’t changed your mind. Don’t say sorry. Keep it short and sweet.

grow up with the blocking crap.

I like the note/card in with the key idea.

I think most people who have gone back to dating at an older age have to block at some point from bad experiences I can see how it might seem extreme to some people.

Some of it is for me to stop me looking at his profiles and thinking about messaging him and also stopping him messaging me like after a couple of drinks, we both did that last time so I was trying to be cut and dried and have a proper ending but he wasn’t a shit so I know some of it is self preservation and is being selfish on my part.