Aibu and was I just mean?

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My patience is very thin regarding people blocking my driveway. It happens most days. I went out twice on Monday and both times I came back a car had parked across it (yes it is very obviously a driveway).

Today one van was parked blocking me in completely. He was there for an hour and I needed to go out, I rang the number on the van and he said he’d be like in a minute. I came outside to get in my car and he made some joke about the rain, pissed off I didn’t react and said why are you even blocking my driveway, you didn’t even come and knock on the door to ask if it was ok.

Then he gave a speech about how he thought he wouldn’t have been there as long as he had and could he stay for 5 more minutes. I said absolutely not, I’m going out and he needs to move his van immediately/

I now feel I was maybe a bit mean. But it happens to me all the time and never has anyone had the decency to knock on my door and say “would you mind”

No. I called the police station last time someone blocked me in (didn’t know who it was, and it was there for about 12 hours) and they called to her door.

You weren’t being mean. He was. You didn’t do anything wrong. He did everything wrong. Why would you think the opposite? What is stopping you from seeing the truth of the situation? Is it conditioning? Low self esteem? A domineering man in your life? You are a person who someone else has tried to take advantage of. You weren’t rude, you weren’t ungracious - and even if you were, no more so than he who knew he was doing something that was both of those things.

No you weren’t mean enough. I have this same problem and it drives me crazy. I regularly swear and shout at the people who do it!

No I don’t think you were mean.

Even though it’s obviously a driveway, you need prominent and multiple signs asking people not to block it.

Signs do make a difference. It’s visuaL and makes people think just enough to go and park somewhere else. Probably across someone else’s driveway. There are loads and loads of signs on Amazon etc.

Lipstick on the windscreen is difficult to remove - most inconvenient

😈 thank you

If you put lipstick on one person’s car, it might deter them. But they might return with some dog shit for your car door handles. Additionally, lipstick on one car isn’t going to deter other cars. Plus is kind of a waste and destruction of lipstick. Better to get signs.

Yanbu and you weren't mean to the van driver who blocked you in. Not only is it annoying it's illegal, or a civil offence. However, as far as I know, there is no law about someone parking across your drive (assuming there are no double yellow lines) when it is empty, it's just really annoying.

Signs 🙄

You weren't mean. They shouldn't have done it in the first place.

I once called someone parked across my driveway when I had to go out and told them they had five minutes before it was towed (which I meant). It was gone in two.

Making a joke about the rain wouldn’t excuse his shit behaviour of blocking your drive.

You were perfectly reasonable unless there’s more to this story and you told him you wished he was dead or something.

Why are you worried about being ‘mean’? He parked unreasonably and you have a perfect right to be able to leave yoir home at any time. What if someone had been ill and you’d had to leave quickly? I’d have kept calling him until he appeared.

He was taking the piss so you were 100% right.

You are perfectly reasonable!
We have an end terrace house with a drive. The rest of the terraces do not. There is empty space in front of all of these houses and delivery vans still park in front of my driveway. It drives me mad! Even worse, they are usually delivering to one of these houses so have to walk past the empty spaces that they could have parked in to get to the house and then walk back so it's not like it's saving them time either. Yesterday a van 'broke down' blocking my drive, it's a good job it had been moved by the time I got back from work or I would have lost my temper and let rip.

Yeah, you probably were a bit mean, but you really shouldn't feel bad about it. There is nothing wrong with correctly directed meanness when faced with an inconsiderate twat IMO, it's the only way some people will get the message that they're out of order.

I estimate that 95% of the time people know fine well they are blocking people but just can't be bothered to check first. My next door neighbour had their floors concreted recently. The lorry blocked my driveway, knowing they would be there for several hours and didn't even have the courtesy to ring my doorbell and check whether I needed to get out during that time. Twats.

I definitely feel like that! Now I'm mid 40's I am all out of subservience and fucks! I am a lot less willing to be taken for a mug now that I'm older!

Absolutely not rude or unreasonable.

I nipped out the other week for 10 minutes.

Came back and a curry’s delivery van is parked on my drive sideways with the tail lift out and down.

I beeped my horn. Waited 1 minute and no one so beeped again.

So I parked the van in and was heading into my house when the man arrived and started shouting at me!

apparently he needed to go NOW as he had deliveries to make and I was just being awkward.

I pointed out my ds in his wheelchair and said he’s made it awkward and as he seemed to think I should wait or just park elsewhere I’m pretty sure he isn’t going to carry on yelling at me for thinking the same.

I moved my car 12 minutes later after he’d waited as long as I had.

Hopefully he won’t do the same thing to someone else soon 😂