To expect her to sniff him?!

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Not a massive issue but one that is putting me off my mum looming after Ds and want to know if I’m BU!

DS (2) gets bad nappy rash at nursery. After a few days at home or even a weekend, it clears up quickly. I know it’s because he’s often not changed immediately.

My mum is always asking to have DS on his own. I’ve asked her to sniff him regularly to check he doesn’t need a nappy doing as I don’t want him to get happy rash. She literally will not get close to the area to sniff, she just sniffs his jumper or neck area. I’ve told her you can’t always tell unless you get closer to him. I know it’s not the most pleasant but surely this is a reasonable request when looking after a toddler?

Ha! I read the OP as having a 2yo son, not that it was her second son. People seem to slip between the two on here (numbers in brackets meaning either age or position of sibling). When she said toddler in the OP, I assumed I must be right that he was 2yo, rather than her second child.

Stewing on your mother, who is caring for your child presumably out of love for her grandchild and the Op rather than money, rather than… the nursery who is patently negligent.

shakes head and wanders off

You need to address the actual nappy rash from the nursery rather than the imagined future nappy rash from your mum

Why are you concerned about your mother and not the nursery?

If my child was getting bad nappy rash on more than one occasion, he'd be moving nursery asap.

If Ops mum doesn’t want to follow precautions to check him for basic toddler care, she shouldn’t be asking for solo time with DS.

So instead of sorting the nursery whose causing tbe problem you choose to punish your mum? Odd.

Why does she need to sniff him to check if he has a wet or dirty bum? There are other ways to check.

This happened to my little one a few months back.

I trusted the nursery as he’d been there 7 months or so with no issues. They offered to change him every hour which unfortunately didn’t solve the problem.

I suggested providing them with the wipes and cream I use at home and over night the problem stopped and there has been no further issues in 4 months.

It was merely my son having a reaction to the specific wipes the nursery uses.

It might be worth trying.

This is the second or third thread I’ve seen about nurseries not meeting toileting needs eg nappies or taking toddlers to the toilet and then I saw a thread saying parents are negligent as so many dc start reception in nappies