DD’s friend and mobile phone

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Dd is 7, her friend is 6 and has been given her dad’s old mobile phone, it has lots of games on it, but also has YouTube on and not just kids YouTube, normal YouTube.
She lives over the road from us and the girls have been playing at each other’s houses lots over summer.
The phone situation is causing such grief, Dd is begging for a phone, which she is categorically not having, she can occasionally play games Ive download on my phone, but this is during quiet tine after we’ve been out lots or she’s been playing out all day etc.
Her friend has started coming to the house with the phone and instead of playing, doing dens, dancing and so on, she’s sat playing games on the phone and Dd sat next to her playing it. I ended up saying no phones after lots of encouragement to play outside, the girl said it was her phone so she could, I said not in my house please.
She stopped bringing the phone round, today Dd has been at hers in the afternoon and has only just managed to get to sleep hugging me after being scared from watching YouTube videos on this girls phone-scary ones apparently
I’m so angry, what do I do? Talk to the mum, just put a stop to her going there?

Is it insane that a 6 year old has access to this or am I too overprotective??!

I think you can just be upfront and say please don’t send your daughter to my house with her phone as it’s causing issues. You can also say your daughter has been scared watching things on a YouTube and if they are to have phones over there, then can they stick to games only.

When I have visiting teenagers I say phones downstairs at night. It’s my house, they don’t have to come back if they don’t like it.

Madness. I simply wouldn't send my child to their house as they clearly can't be trusted, but yes I would go and have a chat first.

YouTube Kids is bad enough, I had it on the youngest age setting and my son managed to see a video that scared him. (I now have it set so only channels I've approved can be shown.) Actual YouTube has everything on the internet, the vast majority of the content won't be suitable for children.

My friend has a 4yr old Gs. Last week we took.him for a day out, and on the journey home he had friends phone to watch Thomas the tank engine videos. Luckily I was sat next to him, because suddenly it switched to a video of a character shouting at someone that they would be 'going to hell' because they hadn't save a dog from falling down a hole. I took it from him to see what was going on and the characters were like horror film ghouls, I put Thomas back on and he didn't seem to notice, but it just shows how quickly things can go wrong

This. Agreed. YANBU.

Your house, your rules.
Bann your DD's friend bringing her phoe into your house.

Chances are, your DD may get round this but its a start

Wow totally inappropriate for 6 year old to have access to a mobile phone totally unsupervised!

Speak don’t text.

Think of it like this - the parents might genuinely be clueless. You'd be doing them a favour by explaining.

Maybe they kick off, but its worth saying something for the kids sake.

I’ve just installed the Virgin app where you can control the router and turn off devices. I’m sure your provider if not Virgin has the same.
i can turn off devices such as the XBOx etc
Either that or pull the plug!

You need to parent and that means stopping play dates with the girl. Your DD clearly isn’t being kept safe at her friend’s house and you are allowing the device that is the issue to come into your home.