My just turned 4 year old has come home to say a boy who he went nursery with, now in his reception class, asked him to show him his private parts at school and gestured my DS to his mouth when pointing at his bits. I asked DS more about it but he went all shy he said he didn’t do it and told him no. I told him about our own private parts and that no one should touch them. I also found some advice on the NSPCC website showing a song about private parts. I asked DS where child learnt this from he said his older brother? But then again DS went vague and didn’t want talk about it or just went off to play. Obviously at 4 he doesn’t know the severity of it. He then started to say the child didn’t point to DS mouth he just pointed to each others bits. He’s also come home asking if certain swear words are naughty words and when asked who said he named this child. The whole situation makes me feel so uneasy, not to be judgemental but the mum doesn’t really seem invested in her kids so I’m wondering if there’s some neglect? I think there is a very different parenting approach to our house. I’m heartbroken and really upset that my DS has been exposed to talk about private parts or rude gestures that could result in him doing something awful and taken advantage of and my anxiety is making me worry what if he has done what the child asked him to but didn’t want to say! When I was younger a similar thing happened to me and it haunts me now, I don’t want that for my child. Should I mention this to the new reception teacher so they can keep an eye out or incase there is some abuse at the other child’s home? Or should I say that DS has come home and told me about child talking about private parts and swear words? Can’t believe I’m having this day 3 into school life. DS also said this happened on the play ground 6 weeks ago on inset day so I’m thinking how has this happened on a school ground for no one to see??
Please help i feel like I can’t settle and feel so upset at the thought of it all changing my little boy.