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To think this is silly from colleagues?

4 replies

Pinkwithlove · 03/09/2025 19:27

Context:

I worked full time for three years at current place of work.

I then went on maternity leave for one year.

I returned for three months working in the same role.

I applied for a promotion over the summer and was successful. I will remain on the same part time hours.

I'm very happy as it provides a healthy stepping stone to future career prospects.

The colleagues in question:

Have worked at the institution for much longer than I have (10+ years), admittedly they know certain systems inside out and potentially better than I do. However, I do think I'm the right fit for the current role and believe I have demonstrated I have the skills etc for it.

They did not apply for the promotion as they "were not asked to" to quote them. I was honest when they asked if I had applied for it. I also was not asked, but expressed a clear interest for it from the get go.

There has been a history at the workplace of these colleagues getting upset about similar situations regarding promotions, and have caused discomfort to levels whereby the promoted have moved on.

These colleagues have begun the same pattern of negative behavior towards me. Think sneering, ignoring, looking through me as if I don't exist, occasional snide remarks.

Am I being unreasonable in thinking this behaviour is pathetic? If you want the role, go for it surely? Don't just hold a grudge against someone and become hellbent on making their time at work a misery because you couldn't be bothered to apply for the promotion you didn't get?

I feel sad for them as I personally think they must have personal issues to feel this way. I do also feel a bit pissed off that we can't all just behave like grown ups (hence this post!).

OP posts:
Plastictreees · 03/09/2025 19:33

It’s sour grapes for them isn’t it. Onwards and upwards OP!

Lmnop22 · 03/09/2025 19:51

Congratulations on the promotion OP!

Being bitter because you didn’t get a job you never applied for is odd behaviour, especially if they’re good at their job and have been there 10+ years…! Also very weird to wait until you’re told to apply for a promotion to go for it. Just ignore them or tell them to apply anyway next time an opportunity arises!

JDM625 · 03/09/2025 19:51

I was in a vaguely similar position in terms of moving up with others that had been there longer. The company restructured, so I got a newly made management role and was then managing my boss! I soon found that those that got annoyed, swiftly resigned and moved on! Well done OP in going for it.

Sixtimesnow · 03/09/2025 19:58

An age old problem. Don't have the confidence to apply, then resentful they're being managed by someone they see as less qualified/experienced.

Hang in there and report any provable disrespect.

With our recent case of this, several people reported the person being disrespectful. The person being disrespected didn't need to. The disrespectful person then left.

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