It was a milestone birthday for me a few years ago. I had had a rough year mh wise and wanted to celebrate, I asked dh if we could go away for a long weekend abroad. Dh was reluctant (he use to worry a lot about money) but he agreed. On my birthday he got me usual gifts annd a small supermarket cake which was lovely and I arranged a meal out for us with our friends. A month later we went away. Dh was in a mood the whole time he , refused to go for a drink, refused to use public transport (due to cost) eve though I had blisters . It was a complete waste of time and money.
Four years later it’s dhs same big birthday , I had in the lead up made suggestions regarding celebrating but then he snapped at me so I dropped it. I spends more on him than normal gifts wise getting him tickets to a band and arranged a meal out with family and ordered him a cake. From a bakery. He said around his birthday he would like to do a weekend away and I said fine. That was 4 months ago.
just to mention I’ve had a awful year health wise, I haven’t brought the weekend away up since because
a- my health hasn’t been great
b- he snapped at me fir raising it previously
c- i organised every aspect of my special birthday so assumed he would arrange this
d- he ruined my birthday
he mentioned the other day he was bothered it wasn’t organised. Shoukk I feel bad for not sorting it?