Unhappy in job

[PerkyOchrePeer]

I dont like my job anymore and I've got 5 years left to retirement. I doubt i will get another job with just 5 years left. I cannot take anymore of my current job or the people

If you don't apply for other jobs you wont know!
What do you do now and what would you like to do?

What don't you like about your job?

I do office work and the benefits are good but I dont like my current role. Things are happening that I dont like but I'm told these things have to be done in a certain way

I wish I could afford to take early retirement and then do something completely different. However I do not want to go from the frying pan to the fire

I'd love to help but it's quite vague. Is it a regulatory thing or just the way someone wants it doing? Unfortunately if they are more senior to you then you may have to just do it. If you know it can be done better maybe a conversation with them could help?
How long have you been there? What's your role?

I've had nice bosses and not so nice bosses and you never truly know what someone is like until they become your boss.

Perhaps keep the job but do
the bare minimum - take up a new hobby/join a group and pour your energy into that instead of your work x

I feel your pain. Only today my boss was bigging up a colleague who has just returned, praising them for their work, when in actual fact they left me with a lot of work to complete, oh and I was the one to do the thing they were praised for... Really revaluating my position. I'm over qualified for this post, but took it as I thought it would be less stressful.

Apply for other jobs, I’m almost 58 and plan on retiring in 2-3 years, I started a new job on Monday after 11 years in my old one. Same field but different role and totally different organisation with (hopefully) far less stress! You won’t know unless you apply, experience is often highly valued

I can't go too much into the role but it's admin. I guess you are right and there is no room for discussion and compromise. I just have to suck it up. I guess it's the office policy decided by the hierarchy which we all have to comply with

No that would not work. I already have hobbies

If I slack on my workbit would get noticed and I would really be in trouble and I dont want to make matters worse. I had a lovely boss who moved on. I've spent most if my childhood being bullied by kids at school. Then I was bullied by my mum . Now I am being bullied by a manager at work. I feel sorry for bullies. They must be very unhappy people

I think i would call it gaslighting which is a more subtle form of bullying. Its still nasty and manipulative.

From the answers that you're giving, I'd say it is partly your attitude that's causing the issue as well as the internal structural changes. You have a very negative & defeatist mindset which prevents you from improving your situation. You've already ruled out a job change because of a potentially future tox̌ic workplace. Not much hope for a person with an attitude like yours.

@ politicomama has it right. Nowadays its given trendy names like "quiet quitting" but it just means working to your contract and no more. Do the hours and the work you are paid for but give up striving and volunteering. Slow down maybe (although not obviously) and dont worry too much about clearing your desk on a friday. It will still be there on monday. Leave the stress to the younger and fitter people. No unpaid overtime or picking up calls and emails out of hours. Even a smart phone has an off switch. Stick it in a drawer. Get a second phone for purely private use and dont give your colleagues/boss the number.

Do you have a union you can discuss things with (or call ACAS) if you feel you’re being bullied? Do you have a colleague you can discuss things with for support or to get a sense of what’s happening?

Write everything that happens down just in case things escalate or you need a record of events.

I think that work for a lot of people these days is stressful and often unpleasant. The job market is pretty poor too and if you’re getting towards retirement your chances of securing another job are low (never mind finding a good job because they’re very thin on the ground).

My last job became an increasing shitshow over the years with management dictating all sorts of changes and piling the work on us. Eventually, everyone just left and the whole thing fell apart.

I was determined to just get on with things in my new job and try not to get too mentally involved with what management are doing. Although it’s a ‘good’ place to work, it’s quite difficult to stay switched off to constant changes, work pressure and edicts from above about all sorts of things. There appears to be no bullying, though, for which I’m very grateful (luckily we have a union too).

Good luck x

The thing is a new job would mean more training and ay my age perhaps im better doing a job i already know and also it takes me almost 2 hours travel to work and that's enough to deal with. Sometimes I get home at 9pm if I have to work late to finish some work and then am exhausted and to avoid having to stay late again the following day, I get up ay 6am and leave at 7am to get in at 9am and hope and pray that I can leave work at 5. Doing this day after day leaves me exhausted at the weekend all I want to do is sleep. This is no life

Its a catch 22 situation. Technically I could finish work earlier in the day but I would not have completed all my work and they would find out and ask why but I'm lucky to have a roof over my head and enough food and clothing. Some people dont have that and have kids to look after.

Other things are happening which i can't go into but I'm in tears and just want out. Im going to enquire about other job possibities

Apply for other more local jobs. My husband was made redundant twice in his 60s. He found a job very quickly the first time, even though his age was an issue for some employers. The second time he retired just over a year before state pension age, but still gets offered jobs.

Changing jobs may be stressful but with a shorter commute you will likely find you are better off financially and have more energy to learn the job and for your hobbies. You may just find it refreshes you. 5 years is too long to put up with a situation that makes you unhappy.

I mentioned that i work late and my journey and they couldn't care less that I got home at 8.45pm. They said what time do you set out in the morning indicating that I stay late because I leave the house late in the morning so that makes me arrive late so I finish late. I pointed out that I left home at 7.15am and with transport issues it took 2 hours 15 minutes so I had to stay until 6.30pm and got home at 8.45 and then got up at the cracking of dawn to try and get in by at least 9am so I could leave at 5.30pm. A decent manager would say of course u can go early. Don't stay so late and get home at almost 9pm. I think it's time to leave. Not woth the ago to make someone like that see reason

I didn't chose to work where I work. I worked. Closer to home but the company moved and we had to move with it and those who didn't live here to where it moved to had long journeys. I did used to work from home but not at the moment as I have WiFi issues so it's a 2 hour plus commute each way every day