To feel as if I was thrown under a bus today??

[thetooththewholetooth]

Meeting today, called by my boss to talk about some developments. Me, him and senior members of my team. The team had discussed one element in depth and agreed that it wasn't going to be practical or have the impact boss wanted.

I explained that to boss, and unsurprisingly he was frustrated and unhappy. Rest of my team said nothing. Made it look like I was being the barrier, one of them completely contradicted what we'd agreed before.

I feel so betrayed and defeated by the whole thing.

Should I speak to boss about it, or to team??

I’m sorry that happened. You probably need to talk to both.

Are they your delegates or peers? What did you say when they contradicted? Surely you said “yes but as per our discussion prior to this meeting - you had agreed xyz”

They are my peers - though different roles, complicated. I didn't want to pull them up in front of boss, so said nothing

Don't allow yourself to be thrown under the bus. Stand up for yourself next time, if not retroactively this time, depending on whether you think speaking up now will do more harm than good—for you, forget the rest of them!

They've shown themselves to be cutthroat and willing to let you be the scapegoat, and as your boss doesn't appear to see through that, you'll have to contradict them, as uncomfortable as that may be. Phrase things in ways that make it clear that you're not the sole 'bad guy'. Don't just sit there and be too noble and dignified to speak the truth.

So you don’t want to pull them up in front of the bus but you will let them throw you under the bus to the boss? It doesn’t have to be confrontational or “pulling them up” but just stating a fact that your surprised X is sharing this view as you understood from your prior conversation in advance of the meeting they had a different view.

only you can look out for you