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To not want my daughter to ware her bridesmaids shoes ??

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mummyloveslucy · 31/05/2008 21:09

Dooes it sound unreasonable to not want my 3 year old daughter to ware the shoes that she is supposed to ware as a bridesmaid?
The other bridesmaids are waring these plinpsole style shoes with a strap going accross. The thing is she has very wide feet and a high instep and therefore always wares start-rite or clarks. Even then not every style suits her foot shape.
I would be pleased to buy her some fitted bridesmaids shoes from start-rite in the same colour. I havn't mentioned it to the bride yet as I don't know what to do.
My daughter has co-ordination difficulties at the best of times and these shoes even if they fit are the sort that don't stay on well and I don't want her tripping down the isle. What would you do???

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VictorianSqualor · 31/05/2008 21:12

No, tell her not yet, but once she has been a bridesmaid let her wear them all the time.
It's what I did with DD, and then realised one day she had a beautiful bridesmaid dress, but had only worn it once so it became her party dress, she even wore the elder bridesmaid's dress for her christening.

Ooops, just read the OP properly
No you're not, ask the bride if you could find some better, OR, let her wear them (they walk really slow down the aisle) and take some comfy shoes for after the photoshoot.

moocowmrs · 31/05/2008 21:14

I am sure the bride would understand, would explain that DD would be happier and more comfy in those shoes, have a look for a picture and show it too her, so that the Bride can ok it so to speak. I am sure that the bride would rather have a smiling bridesmiad than matching shoes !!

Kindersurprise · 31/05/2008 21:17

I would go with VS's suggestion of letting her wear the bridesmaids shoes then changing her shoes after the photos have been taken.

It would only be about an hour or so, would it not?

fishie · 31/05/2008 21:21

try them first though, with a strap across they might stay on quite well in a larger size. if they don't fit at all then wedding fund could contribute to alternatives.

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mummyloveslucy · 31/05/2008 21:24

That's true. I suppose the truth is, I just don't like them. But it's not my choice and I realise that. I'll let her try them and if her feet actually fit in them, then I'll take her comfy ones for after the pics. I'll also have a word with the bride, she might surgest that I buy her some fitting ones anyway. You never know.

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madmuggle · 31/05/2008 21:24

For twenty minutes I'd say let her wear them. Then as VS has suggested change her into something she can bomb about in. Much easier to trash a good frock when you're wearing sensible shoes

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mummyloveslucy · 31/05/2008 21:28

Thats true!

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scottishmummy · 31/05/2008 21:29

could she wear them solely for pictures, and appropriate shoes at other times?dont think yabu at all

macdoodle · 31/05/2008 22:02

oh don't be silly let her wear them - my DD1 is giving my sister away {proud mummy emoticon} and has these ridiculous high heeled sandal type things (she is 6) I think they are hideous too high and too grown up but hey ho its my sisters wedding - we have bought her a lovely comfy outfit (linen trousers and matching top) and lovely comfy flat pretty shoes for after - she will change after the photos and everyone is happy - not a big deal !

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mummyloveslucy · 31/05/2008 22:10

Well at least they're not high heels!
I suppose it could be a lot worse.

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mummyloveslucy · 31/05/2008 22:15

Oh, I've just found out that little george has wone britains got talent! I am over the moon now. He is such a sweetie.

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newgirl · 31/05/2008 22:19

i dont think it is worth making a fuss about and your dd might be upset if she is different

also i can just imagine a bride posting on here saying 'oh god ive got so much to think about and now they are flapping about shoes' - just change them after the photos

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mummyloveslucy · 31/05/2008 22:25

That's true. I remember being in the same situation myself 5 years ago.
My daughter really couldn't care less what she wares as long as it dosn't itch.

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madmuggle · 31/05/2008 22:35

Sensible lass your daughter, got to avoid the itch. Suggest to bride that silk and linen are the way to go

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mummyloveslucy · 31/05/2008 22:44

Yes, I think I'll say it quick then run for cover.

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LynetteScavo · 31/05/2008 22:49

I'm sure the bride would understand. I really wanted my bridesmaids to wear Startrite anyway. The bride has so many other things to worry about, I'm sure she won't mind you sorting our your DC's shoes.

DirtySexyMummy · 31/05/2008 23:03

FFS.. no offence, but you are being rather precious about your DD's feet here.

Its not like she has to wear these shoes forever, its for a few hours at the most.

Also, it is wear. Thanks.

madmuggle · 31/05/2008 23:28

Erm, the issue has already been resolved. We're now just contemplating the issue of silk and linen over everything else on the planet

VictorianSqualor · 31/05/2008 23:29

DSM, you know I loves ya, but I don't think this thread needed such harshness.
She's trying and willing to try harder.
Grammar correction not needed really, save it for the bounty transfers

DirtySexyMummy · 31/05/2008 23:33

Sorry - pedant at heart

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