To think life is cruel?

[Lifeisntnotunfair]

In the past month I’ve;
Had an early miscarriage, after being pregnant for the first time in the year that we’ve been trying
Been with my friend whilst she gave birth to her accidental baby, which she conceived within the first week of trying
Been cut off by my parents after setting a boundary

I’ve been prescribed anti depressants, I’m picking them up after work today. Not sure that they will help with the utter mess that is my life

You’re grieving and life really is cruel at times

Be kind to yourself and all your feelings are valid x

Thank you

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anti depressants will help you get through this trauma x

You’re not wrong life is cruel. Sorry for your loss. Do you have anyone you can talk to?

im sorry for your loss and experiences. Life can be tough in many different ways for people and takes a lot to survive and heal.
take the support from your doctor and partner, and hopefully some friends too.

lots of love ❤️

I’m so sorry for your loss 💕

@Lifeisntnotunfair Im sorry for your loss. Yes, life can be really unfair and you’ve been dealt a cruel blow.

As others have said, give yourself grace and time to grieve.

I’m going through a bit of a rough time myself although for very different reasons. I’m struggling to find joy in anything. The days are very long and I’m not sleeping. It’s really shit but I’m holding onto the advice that “this too shall pass”.

And remember- what you see on the surface life of others may not reflect their own inner turmoil. My life looks blessed to those looking in - they’d have no clue how I was actually feeling.

Take care 💐❤️

Thank you.
I’ve got some support from friends and of course my partner, just all feels very impossible right now. I can’t see a way out of it. I also don’t want to lean on them too much and start bombarding then with my own issues

Friends who really care will listen without judgement and give you examples of other people who have been through similar, not to diminish your experience but to give hope for the future x

Life can indeed be cruel and I'm sorry for your loss 💐.

I'm so sorry you've suffered so much recently
I'm praying everything soon turns around immensely positively for you & in your favour, as you most surely deserve
Counselling might be more beneficial long-term, & more healing than antidepressants which are more just to mask emotions & feelings, which need to expressed, not suppressed, in order to completely recover
Let time take time
Wishing you the utmost very best 💚🙏

Thank you. I’m so sorry to hear that you’re also struggling.
To put it bluntly, life can be shit. I love the quote ‘this too shall pass’.

No, life is anything but fair. So sorry you lost your baby - supporting your friend through her child's birth must have been unbelievably hard.

Virtual hand hold from me.

Life has the potential to be extremely cruel. Fortunately there are often other bits that make it worthwhile. I hope things are easier soon.

Thank you.
It was extremely hard, I definitely had a few moments where it felt a bit too much to cope with, but I knew she needed me.
It was a wonderful thing to witness, but has just made everything hurt even more.

Life is cruel. In the space of seven years Ive had 7 miscarriages including stillborn triplets, lost two very important people in my life to cancer, my youngest nearly died from undiagonsed type one diabetes, I was diagnosed with a deteriorating disease that will put me in a wheelchair eventually. Life can be so cruel, but we cant dwell on it or the grief will consume us and we will miss out on the good parts of life.
Im so sorry for your loss x

Im sorry you are going through this.
It sounds incredibly tough.

I think you asked too much of yourself in the circumstances. It must have been terrifically hard to be a birth partner when you’d just miscarried. Yes, she needed you, but I think you could have prioritised protecting yourself — think about it for the future.

Yes, life can be ironic and cruelly unfair. A friend of mine had a termination of an accidental pregnancy when she was young, went on to marry that partner and try to conceive unsuccessfully for ten years, including several rounds of IVF. They did end up eventually having a child with a donor egg and sperm, but it was a long time to try to come to terms with having conceived accidentally through contraceptive failure when they didn’t want to, and then not manage to conceive when they desperately wanted a child. Therapy helped.

I’d recommend therapy over antidepressants, OP. You’re feeling grief and pain because something terribly difficult happened to you, not because there’s something wrong with your mood chemistry. Let yourself sit with the feelings. They will pass. Very best wishes.

Thank you everyone.

Life is cruel and also beautiful. I hope some of the beautiful side is headed your way. I remember the devastation of my miscarriage 26 years ago this month. I am in a cruel period with my husband’s health right now but have experienced lots of beauty in between. Feel those feelings but also keep the faith beauty will return

Hugs. Have you tried therapy or have you got a support network you can lead on (aside from your parents or friend who just gave birth)

It can be very cruel, take care OP