My baby daddy is in financial difficulty. He left his high paying job to avoid CMS and is now working contract free in a job that he is making no money in but stays cos they are selling him the dream and he is delusional - he's claiming benefits and living on his cousins sofa. He has around 8k of debt racked up now.
I have heard that he is struggling and is trying to go back to his old job who won't have him (we worked together and he made around £500-800 per WEEK), and he told me himself and showed me benefit statements and his bank (I didnt ask for this), yet he goes out most weekends, always has new stuff and is seeing someone. He says his friends pay for it all as he helped them in the past and they are repaying the favor and when he makes his money back (millionaire dream), he will pay them back.
Am I right not to lower the amount? Or should I hold my ground?
He hasn't asked, but he does make me feel guilty as he gives me between 250£ per month from his benefit money although it doesnt cover much tbf. He said with my 30 hours funded childcare I can now use the 'extra money' from him to 'go on holiday or something', as if I am now suddenly rolling in money because childcare has gone from £650 a month to around £300.
He was emotionally and psychologically abusive and treated me horrendously throughout, so part of me is also thinking why should I do him any favours, especially at the detriment of mine and my son's life.