Anyone awake for advice on drunk teen

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Dd is 16 years old. Have collected her from a party with 3 friends at 11:30. They all appear quite sober but she has obviously been drinking. She has climbed straight into bed where the rest of the girls are chatting an hour and half later. I’ve gone in and roused her several times and she is quite stroppy but has responded and had a few sips of water but denied drinking alcohol but has quickly gone back to sleep. I’ve tried to persuade her to sleep in spare room with me but she is getting very cross and won’t budge. Not sure what to do. If she was here by herself I would sleep on her floor to check on her. I am feeling really stressed that she might vomit while asleep. Currently sitting on the landing in a panic.

Just let her sleep.

I would leave her to it at this stage. I think the choking on vomit is if someone is paralytically drunk. You said she didn’t even seem drunk? And it has now been several hours.
Politely, I think you are massively over reacting and need to get a grip. Go to bed.

You could check that she’s asleep on her side and if she is then she should be ok.

Sorry, I just et read and I think you mean her friends seem sober but she is drunk. My advice would still be the same at this point.

If she appeared quite sober like you said, she won’t be drunk enough to worry about her choking on vomit

prop her on her side with a pillow behind her back and rolled forward enough to put a pillow under the top leg (which is somewhat crossed over to help stabilize you in the side lying position).
depending on how much she "didn't" drink she may need to empty her bladder while still wobbly and needing help.

Sorry her friends all seem sober apart from her.

just let her sleep it off

Sure she hasn't smoked a joint? It would be pretty normal for the ones who do it more regularly to not be affected much.

@GingerPower don’t think it was weed as can’t smell it. I think probably vodka. I’m suffering severe anxiety at the moment so I’m not sure if this clouding my judgement. Her friends probably think I’m a bit nuts.

This is your anxiety. Just let her sleep.

If she’s alert enough to be stroppy she will definitely be alert enough to not choke on her own vomit, he friends will hear her regardless.

Try and get some rest- teens eh! We spend our whole lives trying to keep them alive whilst putting ourselves in an early grave doing so!!!

Why are you panicking? Of course she’s not going to vomit in her sleep from a few drinks, and her friends are with her anyway. Your daughter wants to sleep - it’s not surprising that she’s getting cross with you if you’ve woken her up several times. Leave her alone and stop making a fool of yourself in front of her friends!

If she appeared sober then it's probably more tiredness. She's with friends, I'd make sure they have your number so they can call you if necessary.

@DiscoBeat Sorry she was definitely not sober - her friends were. She got out to have a wee and she stumbled all over the place. Slurring her words too. I think they have all gone to sleep but I would like to check on her

You think your teen is drunk? Could she have taken something? Has she done either before so that you could recognize it? Friends still awake? Ask them point blank. Tell them you need to know to make sure she/they is safe. What are the rules for underage drinking/drugs in your house?
There's no way I'd be trying to protect my daughter's rep or be the cool mum. I'd demand answers and act accordingly.

Thanks for replying @Mumtobabyhavoc.My husband and I never drink but recognise that teenagers will try it. I am satisfied that it is alcohol she has drank but feel I can’t check on her when there are another 3 girls sleeping in the room. Not sure what to do. As I can’t go to sleep right no as I’m anxious.

If it's just been alcohol and she's responsive, she'll probably be just fine. If the friends are sober and at least one is generally sensible, maybe have a quick quiet word to say you're a little anxious (whether you say specifically about daughter possibly vomiting from drinking a little too much or not is up to you, but I think that's fine if you keep it light and matter-of-fact) they shouldn't hesitate to wake you up if anything's wrong. Of course it's ultimately your responsibility not theirs, and they may all fall asleep soon, but at least you won't have to worry that something bad is happening and they're afraid to wake/tell you.

If you want to check on her for peace of mind go ahead and do it OP. My mum would have sent everyone home and given be a huge bollocking, you sound like a lovely and caring mum.

I hear you @Forgottenidentity but, worst case scenario, what if she did take something? You need to see her in the light and find out. I know a lot of replies have bee saying let her sleep it off, but what if that's that wrong call? I'd rather a huge fight and know she's safe.

I’d worry too OP. Light knock on door and go and check. It will put your mind at rest and they will likely not even wake up and even if they do, it’s a perfectly legitimate concern.

I’m sure she’ll be ok but maybe you could take them all a drink of juice and while you’re there you can check on her. Anxiety is bloody awful, nearly as bad as having teenagers.

If she's managing to get up for a wee and not pissing the bed, she is going to wake up if she feels really sick/starts puking.

I think you can also be pretty certain that if she starts puking, the other girls are going to react, unless her room is so large theres enough space that she wouldn't wake them/spew on them.

How’s the hangover this morning?

You're massively overreacting. My dd was away at university partying most weekends when she was 18 (so was I!). Unless she was v drunk there's v little chance of her vomiting. She needs to sleep it off so next time stop waking her!