Wwyd? Mum dating this odd guy.

[whataanchor]

Mum dating a younger man he is (60) loos very young fit and health. Mum is (70) and he honestly looks like her son. Keeps feeding her sob story’s around using food banks and that he has no money. Took mum away for a few days and was almost picking on her she said she almost felt like an inconvience to him. (Mum paid for everything)

I posted him on the (are we dating the same guy) Facebook page and it got back to him very quickly! I haven’t admitted it to mum that it was me which I feel bad about it now. But now if anything it raised further concerns as that’s a group for women.

WWYD? Shall I just keep my nose out of it.

I'd need to tell her. He's a lying using bastard.

Yep I think my gut is right 😩

Tell her what?

So if your m said she felt like an inconvenience then surely you need to keep pushing that and make her realise thats not how a genuine relationship should make her feel.

My mum won’t listen to anyone once she’s in a relationship there’s no point.

If this is the case I’d keep out of it then not easy I know

Yes I think you may be right. I just can’t understand what a man ten years younger who is extremely good looking would want to be with my mum? She’s 70 always unwell up and down to the doctors all the time (one of those) and lives in a retirement home.

He wants her money but she will be too foolish to listen. Is he even really the age he says he is?

This isn't uncommon; he's milking her. Probably wants to be included in her will.

What do you think he's after? Does your mum have savings or jewellery? Could he jeopardise her ability to pay for the retirement home?

Has your mother got a Will and a POA?

Well I think we can all hazard a guess…

Mum doesn’t have a huge amount of savings but has a little nest. No will from what I know. What on earth is he getting out of it?

Unfortunately the “Are We Dating the Same Guy” groups are full of Pick Me women who run straight back to the guys.

Hi @whataanchor
In your shoes, I would say something like you are sorting your Will out (even if you havent, good to do), and has she made hers? Open up convo over a cuppa face to face, a walk etc not just blurt it out on a phone call. Gauge her mood/responses. Most people dont want to face immortality so go gently. Dont mention BF. If mum has a Will, who is her solicitor or where is it held? Who are the Executors eg friends, relatives. If this is your first convo, I would probably hold some of this for further chats.

I am not sure how he took her away on a break/holiday because she paid! Doesnt that mean she took him? Do you know if he works (as he would be working age)? Or which town he comes from/some backgroun on how they met?

I hope you can start to get some answers and help your mum she is she is being taken advantage of
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