DP works full time Mon-Fri, I run my own business with staff, often working weekends. I asked my DP at the beginning of the year if we could book in some dates for him to take leave during the school holidays, so that we could have family days out (a mix of weekends off for me and weekdays off for him). He was very clear he wasn’t going to do that. So every school holidays I manage to juggle 2 DC (7 and 18 months) and full time work, using child minder, grandparents, play dates and any free time I can magic.
Cut to the end of the summer holidays, DP’s friend’s wedding some distance away. DP takes off Friday and Monday to allow for helping, hangover etc. Absolutely fine by me (I was invited but children weren’t, so I stayed at home). I’m working Monday (regular cover for staff day off), youngest at child minder, eldest I had to ask a friend to have him. All sorted. Except DP suggested on Thursday evening that he might come home Sunday instead and it would be nice for us all to have a day out together to a particular place on Monday. I say no, plans have been made. He says I can change the plans. I don’t agree to anything, he asks DC7, DC7 wants to stick with original plans.
DP is now home from the wedding (Sunday pm). I ask him what he’s doing tomorrow (ie having a day off anyway, or going to work and saving a day’s holiday). He says it depends on Bob. Bob is my staff member who’s day off I cover on a Monday and is DP’s friend. DP has messaged him to see if he’ll work instead of me tomorrow. I reiterate that it hadn’t been agreed, plans had already been made and it’s Bob’s day off, he can’t ask him that. DP strops and says he’ll have a day out in his own then, as usual!
I agree it would be nice for us all to have a day out together, but not at this short notice and inconveniencing others. AIBU to say no?