My dd won’t go upstairs on her own and it’s starting to become an issue, she needs something she won’t go and get it and begs for someone to go with her, she’s almost 8 and shouldn’t feel like this so over time I’ve been asking her to get stuff off the stairs for me each time I’ve put it a stair higher eventually she was going upstairs to get bits for me and then one day she stayed in her room playing ! I was really chuffed because at her age she should be happy to go anywhere in the house I was happy she didn’t have the worry however she’ll ask her dad to go with her or get it for her and off he goes so now she won’t go upstairs on her own anymore, I feel like I need to start over again but what is the point if he undoes it all, another example I’ve made my son his breakfast he wanted eggs but didn’t eat it so partner has just made him cereal, I don’t agreee with this it’s teaching him he can waste and daddy will make him more, there’s lots of other examples like he’ll allow dd to have her iPad all morning / day whereas I say no iPad unless she’s dressed ready for the day has played read so it’s not just the iPad. I try to teach them respect but he allows them to talk to him and demand ( because he always gives in ) then he moans to me that the kids don’t respect him like they do me yet when I tell him why and tell him he undermines me and lets them rule him he goes all sulky and childlike saying it’s not his fault ! How do I deal wit this because he literally undoes everything undermines me and makes me feel like a live in baby sitter