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AIBU?

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To go on holiday along rather than have friend come too?

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tilttop · 30/08/2025 21:12

I would like to book a holiday and asked a friend if she would like to come and she said yes. At the time I said about going away mid October after half term and she said this would be fine but I also mentioned possibly going away in January when we have time off.
If going away in January I would have preferred to spend more money to go away for 2 weeks since there would be longer to pay it off (we won’t be booking till September minimum trying to get last min deal hopefully).

She came back and said she couldn’t go away that long in January as it would be her nieces (1 and only niece most likely) first birthday mid January which is fine as I would prefer to go away October.

I have now given a set date in October for us to go and her response is that her mums birthday is 2 days before that and she’d have work due in around that time too. We would be home the day after her mums birthday so she could take her out for dinner then before we leave late evening for the airport (early morning flight about 3 hours away so will stay with family near airport)

WIBU by saying it’s fine I’ll just go alone? Honestly feels like I am adjusting my own holiday to work around her and her whole families birthdays. I have had a long year so far and need a break desperately (verging on major burnout) and was going alone originally.

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Knackeredmommy · 30/08/2025 21:14

Go alone, it probably won’t happen if you wait on her, it was your holiday that you’re now adjusting to accommodate your friend!

IndigoBluey · 30/08/2025 21:17

YANBU go yourself, it was nice of you to think of your friend but it’s now sounding complicated. The first birthday thing is strange but fair enough that is her choice. I say this as a strong lover of solo trips. You can do what you want, when you like and it sounds like after a tough year, some R&R might do you the world of good without having to factor in your friends plans of her own

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