Thoughts please.

[Mamabear404]

Am I over reacting to hear partner say to his relative, that he is not picky on looks of a women and also he would never be with a very beautiful women as they bring to many problems? I was very upset about this. I confronted him and said he made it out as if I was ugly (which I am not).
His response was haha do you think you think you look like a model? He told me he thought I was beautiful but he stood by his comments and said I was childish to react.

i admit I am very overtired and prob menstrual so on the emotional side. Would you be upset by this? X

His response was worse than the original comment

what a baby he is

I am you’re gorgeous OP, they’re just used to our looks … and he’s a massive baby

It’s pretty crass. I’d probably have told him he wouldn’t stand a chance with a “very beautiful woman” anyway.

No wonder you are upset OP.
First of all he insulted your looks ,then he totally dismissed your hurt feelings, and then he doubled down on his comments about your looks.
If he is your bf the fact he is discussing the types of women he fancies with his relatives it's just totally disrespectful of you.

Thank you for your responses, I really appreciate it. I am relieved to hear I am not being overly sensitive. He brought it up again just now, and said I make silly problems. I explained that he wouldn’t like it if he overheard me say that. He said I know I don’t look like Brad Pitt tho 🤦🏼‍♀️

It does sound like he's handled this badly, tactless. Personally, I know my DH and I are not models, but it's unkind to point it out.

Sounds like he was just having a conversation. I recently said to my sister that I wouldn't like to date a buff guy, too much effort and they spend all the time at the gym, bore.
He knows he's not Brad Pitt, you know you're not Angelina Jolie, but you're beautiful to each other and love each other. Nothing more to read into the matter than that. It would not bother me x

You are menstrual and very tired. Move on and don't overthink.

Well i think I've probably said the equivalent to friends in front of my DH, so I guess I'd be a hypocrite to be offended if he said similar. I've basically said in my experience, really good looking guys tend to be really arrogant or boring (or both) and therefore become instantly unattractive once you speak to them. Meanwhile how attractive I find someone is based on their personality and sense of humour.

I think context and exactly what was said is key. At the moment it does sound like you are taking a general comment personally.

He's shouldn't keep bringing it up again and saying you create problems, is he generally a knob?
Also can we stop blaming hormones for everything? Not everything that annoys, upsets or pisses us off is because we're 'menstrual'!