To ditch childhood best friend

[CallyRoberta]

my childhood best friend, over 20 years of friendship. the only person I still speak to from school, we were thick as thieves, always just us 2 against the world.

I had my first child at 20, second at 24. She is very career focused, no partner and no children. My oldest is now 10 and youngest 6. She has NEVER met my youngest and only met my eldest a handful of times. She always want to see me without them, never ever suggests to even come round.

i can’t imagine just ending the friendship, she knows me better than anyone, but she has no interest in my children and they are my whole entire life. What do I do?

Perhaps you need to re-read my post because OP’s friend has shown no interest in her second child since she was 24. Hence my point.

You need to take a longer view of friendships - they can wax and wane. 10-15 years time when the kids need you less/have flown the nest and you may appreciate her more. She doesn't want the mum part of you - this intense mum stage won't be there forever

I have a childhood friends, a couple of them, one has kids and one doesn't and I can count on the fingers of one hand the amount of times they have met DS or I have met their kids.

My relationship is with my friend(s) and whilst we do talk about our family life etc., our chats are generally wide ranging and I enjoy the chance to be me, and not "mum".