I don’t want to get involved

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Close family member has done it again: found himself a lover while married to someone else. Last time I told his poor (first) wife about his long-term affair, who eventually became his second wife and they had 2 DCs in v quick succession. Now all the family found out about another long-term lover (he has had another baby with her too), and everyone just assumed that I will be one, who will tell his second wife.
I don’t want to be THAT bearer of the news. I don’t want to get involved and do not want to do anything with the situation.
AIBU to walk away and pretend nothing has happened? We have quite a few big family functions coming up in the next couple of months, where he will be with his second wife and family, and I just want to not get involved and pretend that I don’t know. AIBU?

Fuck, no. If he's not going to do it, then somebody can rather than hiding behind your skirts.

Fair enough. It’s not like she doesn’t know he’s a cheater.

I wouldn’t tell her. What goes around comes around. Plus it’s just not your business.

As she was the original OW and contributed to breaking up the first marriage, I wouldnt give a monkeys as what goes around comes around.

She'll find out soon enough and he'll be off to wife #3.

I think if you were the other woman and become the permanent partner/wife you’re just creating a vacancy for a mistress - I’d leave well alone, not your circus and not your monkeys as they say

Nope would never have got involved as you would never know if they actually had an open marriage or whatever which is very common these days

Stay out of it. His affairs and lovers and marriages are none of your business and no good will come from getting involved. The less you know the better. Stay schtum!

YANBU. Why would you be the one to tell anyone? It doesn’t have anything to do with you.

If someone in your family has actually witnessed the cheating (e.g, seen the husband involved in PDA with someone else) then that person, if anyone, should either tell the wife or confront the husband and request that he tell her. It makes no sense for someone who has heard it secondhand/is not the original source of the information to be the messenger.

I'd probably give him a right dressing down and sit back and wait for the poor woman to find out another way. Grrrr

What goes around comes around. Not your problem. I wouldn’t want anything to do with him and would just blank him if you’re at an event together.

He had a whole other family? Bkoody hell what a knob.

Who is assuming you’ll tell the wife? Tell them its their turn to talk to the wife, you’ve already done your bit.

You are doing the right thing. Not your fault is it? The woman knew he was a cheater when
they got together. Do leopards change their spots?!