Kids fighting and shouting in the garden until 9pm

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Would you be happy if your neighbour’s children were fighting, shouting and screaming whilst playing football in the garden until 9pm?
The three children are aged 7-16 and the older ones tend to bully the youngest which causes him to shout and argue with them. The parents never intervene or ask them to keep it down.

It’s waking up our 3 year old and 7 month old, even over white noise, as their rooms overlook the garden and we’re in a Victorian terrace, so we’re getting frustrated with it. The sound is so loud that I can hear it through the monitor clearly.

We genuinely don’t mind playing, laughing, talking, we get that kids are loud, but the constant shouting, bickering and screaming as balls constantly bash against the wall is starting to drive us a bit insane.

How much do people tolerate before asking the parents to intervene?

The screaming is just a hard no for me! My kids were screaming in the garden and I told them we had a letter from Environmental health. They can play, laugh but cut the screaming out. I would be having a word.

9pm isn’t late at all.

They're in their own property and 9pm isn't late. Yours will be doing the same soon enough

I understand 10pm is the cut off and when you can raise noise complaints in our area, but isn’t it inconsiderate to be shouting in the garden until 9pm?

I honestly have no idea on what’s reasonable, unreasonable or us being sleep deprived, so feeling more annoyed with it.

Are they shouting aggressively or just being noisy and annoying?

Yabu. 9pm is not late at all. The world doesn't revolve round your toddler!

I think it’s actually 11pm?

Yes it’s inconsiderate, screaming kids are awful and the shrill ones never seem to get checked. I must have more sensitive ears than those parents!

But in the grand scheme of things, quiet from 9pm is heaven. Then again I once lived in a house where a neighbour’s dog barked for 16 hours a day, including through the night, it was like torture

Annoying but 9pm isn't late.

Once school starts and the evenings get darker they will probably be in before 9.

No it's 11pm not 10

Try having a hot tub next door, with drunken adults cackling into the early hours under your kids window.

Sadly, they don’t. It’s all year round, even with the youngest one out, who tends to scream more as his brothers kick footballs at him.

Shouting aggressively as they argue whilst playing football, which results in the older ones kicking balls at the youngest, he then screams. Rinse, repeat for 2-3 hours straight.

@Corfumanchu we’re not expecting the world to revolve around our children, it’s actually waking the baby more than the toddler, but asking if it’s inconsiderate.
We don’t go out at 6am and scream and shout in the garden when they are sleeping as I know that’s inconsiderate.

Andv6 am would be too early. Yhe houtd of reduced noise are 11pm to 7 am. Most people are up and aboit ay 9pm.Also most babies can sleep through noise. Do they mpt nap in the daytime at all?

It’s selfish and antisocial. And I say that as the mum of a footie mad teen. We’ve never allowed screaming or shouting, and the ball is not allowed to be kicked against the fence, he has a net. And it’s dark at 9pm now. Can you go around and have politely talk to them? Would they listen?

@RoseAlone mine are older teens now but have never screamed and shouted out in the garden. If they did I would tell them to pack it in as it’s annoying!

We even tell our 3 year old not to scream
and shout, so I agree, we wouldn’t allow it as teens either.

Would you be happy if your neighbour’s children were fighting, shouting and screaming whilst playing football in the garden until 9pm?

Yes, because during the school holiday it goes on here to 11pm. 😡

No, it isn't because like you said cut off is 10 pm and they can do whatever the hell they want in their home.

I don't even let my dog bark for over a minute in the garden during the day time! I let her out for a wee and she can stay out if she is quiet but a few too many barks and she is lured back in with a biscuit so the neighbours can enjoy their garden.

I often feel I live in a different world where everyone just does whatever they like thoughtlessly.

Continued screaming is inconsiderate at any time of day, so you aren't unreasonable to be annoyed and you WNBU to request that their parents try to reduce the noise they make, but I don't honestly know if I'd bother. I tend to believe that anyone who would allow the screaming in the first place won't react well to even polite requests that they rein in their noisy kids, so I'd be looking instead at anything else I could do myself. Perhaps you're braver than I am (or have more faith in the humanity of your neighbours).

No. CLose your windows. The o session with quiet is unnecessary.

im sure the baby can be heard crying at all times and you will want the good will when your own get to that age.

Screaming is a no from me. My children learned very early on that if you scream you don't play outside
Shouting and laughing is something you do have to learn to live with if you have neighbours as I'm sure soon it'll be your children outside shouting and laughing.
I do think once people are past the baby stage they forget how hard it is and aren't always considerate to other parents.
What can you do? Sadly not much. You can talk to the parents but if they're happy to let their eldest bully their youngest I'm not sure they'll do anything.
Can you move bedrooms?

It’s irritating but there’s nothing you can do. Some people are just obnoxious arseholes. Our neighbours are noisy in summer but you do have to try and get your children used to the noise. Both of my ds’ can sleep through an atomic bomb now as we live in a mid terrace close to a hospital and main road.

This. It's the last week of the summer holidays. I'd let them get on with it, soon it will be too dark, chilly, wet and they'll have home work.

UANBU but it’s the end of the summer and in your shoes I’d try to avoid a confrontation with the neighbours over this one.