Aibu about dancing at weddings

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Just back from my cousin’s beautiful wedding and it’s another occasion where I feel I’ve missed out again as I just can’t dance so avoid the dance floor at all costs

can I learn? If so how?? I just want to bop around to dance floor classics not give a performance - I just feel so self conscious! I don’t know what to do with my arms - whenever I have tried to dance I look awful and don’t enjoy it.

I have watched YouTube videos, tried copying others, tried listening to the beat and moving in time - is this something I can learn?! So jealous of those who move well and look confident

YABU - you can learn to dance at any age

YANBU - not everyone can dance/learn to dance

I'm with you on this! I can't dance to save myself. What makes it worse, is that when I've decided to just go for it and have fun people have told me that I can't dance - usually the following day. It's knocked every little bit of confidence out of me with regard to dancing, so I now just don't join in at all!

This is some great advice, OP.

How to dance

I think dancing is like most things, where you can certainly improve even if you have little natural talent.

Incidentally, I did loads of dancing training as a teenager and can dance very well, but I hate bopping at weddings. I need choreography and classical music 😂

Try Ceroc. Very little footwork, very little worry about arms because they are mostly connected to your partner, and can be danced to many rhythms. Particularly useful for weddings if you have a partner also up for it, but if not the classes are v good at making people swap partners. Plenty of people go alone.

I think it’s one of those things anyone can improve at. One of my kids goes to a lot of dance classes and I’ve noticed when she is with her friends (who also go) just bopping about they are always in time and they just seem to move so fluidly. I’m sure it’s at least in part due to spending hours a week dancing but maybe they’ve also partially gone for that as an activity because they are good at it. I went to classes for years as an adult and enjoyed it and am happy enough to take to a dance floor and bop along but I’ve never have the poise the kids seem to already have at 10ish years old 😂

I should’ve added that by “well oiled” I mean a few drinks - you obviously don’t want to be the person twirling on the dance floor while everyone else is still finishing their dessert…..

Just ask the DJ to play Beautiful Sunday and do

THE SLOSH!

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=yG22freyTlg

I feel your pain

I do NOT dance, ever

I tried once when I was 17, it was a disaster, so embarrassing, I have no clue and even watching people dance, I get embarrassed for them, they look ridiculous

I just thank god that I am old now and have arthritis and other health problems so I have a good excuse not to dance😁

I love dancing, regularly have a kitchen disco moment. Last year I saw a video from a night out, and realised I dance as dad/mum dance. I asked DD about my dancing she said I dance like I'm from the 70's (which I am). Despite the fact she said she loves it as I really let myself go, I know feel really self conscious, so keep it to my home discos

Thank you, Mr Brent from Slough.

You’re most welcome 😆