Ungrateful friend at her birthday lunch

[TheJadeQuoter]

It was my friend’s 60th on Sunday so we went out for lunch Monday. She is my ex boss as I used to work at her salon until May (I’m a stay at home mum now). It’s a small salon so there’s only a few of us and they are my only friends. There were 6 of us there at the birthday lunch.

I bought her some flowers and a bottle of champagne which I know she likes. When I arrived she never said hello. I gave her her present and she just looked at it, opened the bag and card and just said “put this to one side, I’m going to the bar” and went. Before I gave her the present she was irritated by the waitress so I know she was not in a good mood but it’s still rude.

Even during the food she still never said thank you. In fact the whole lunch was just mostly an “off” atmosphere; her mostly complaining about her in laws and the group talking politics. When the cake arrived she never thanked anyone for that either.

AIBU to be offended by this?

Yes, she was rude. 60th's seem to be a minefield, a friend of my mother, her kids had organised her a surprise party. God knows what possessed them. She ran from the room crying and locked herself in the bedroom.

She doesn't sound very pleasant. There was no need for her to have been so rude. Ungrateful cow.

She was very rude.

What a rude ungrateful bitch!
YANBU

Think it’s time you widened your circle of friends. She sounds awful.

Ah what a shame - is she usually like this or is it out of character for her?

Very rude. I feel your pain because I organised a friend's 60th and put SO much work into it and she was awful. So ungrateful, it really put a mark on our friendship.

She doesnt like that she’s turning 60. Did the card say 60 on it? My mum was like this. She threw all her cards out she was so cross.

Did she organise it and invite you all, or did you and friends do it for her?

Sometimes people don't want to acklowledge their roundy age, but nevertheless she was bang out of order and I wouldn't be too friendly with her after that performance. What do the others who were there think?

YANNU. Very rude. Similar happened to me. I can only think jealousy here. Last time I bother with a gift.

I wouldn’t be offended as it clearly wasn’t aimed personally at you, she sounds like she was having an off day with everyone.