To think most people would leave their partner if they knew they’d never be caught?

[ThatBluntCrow]

So much of “commitment” seems tied to fear of consequences - divorce, shame, money. AIBU to think if people were guaranteed secrecy, loads more would walk away from their relationships?

How would I get caught if I left my partner? Who would catch me?

How does guaranteed secrecy help me to walk away from my relationship? Money, yes, that might help. Secrecy? Not so much.

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I think that loads of men would leave their wives and kids if there were no social consequences - more than those that do already

I also think that a lot more women would. Not as many as men, but there would be a good few women who'd walk away or at most give the dad full custody and be a 2nd weekend parent

You say about getting caught as if someone leaving a relationship is a naughty child.

Is the word caught correct here?

If you mean do some people feel trapped, but not enough to leave, because:

• society judgement on single parents
• worries about impact of separation on kids
• realities of lifestyle restrictions due to finances for single people v coulples

Then there'll be bucket loads of women and men, potentially thinking the grass is greener but the risk v reward isn't there to leave.

How can you secretly leave someone? And caught by whom?

I don't understand what you are saying? If you were going to leave your partner why would you need secrecy ? You can't really leave someone and keep it a secret anyway.

I think the OP needs rebooting, I agree this makes zero sense

I’m secretly not with Jason Isaacs.

winning post of the day. Made me snort with laughter

I have no idea what this thread is about?

Do you mean if someone could walk away as if they never existed?