Ex moving and commute

[TipsyPlumUser]

My ex wants to enter into a 50/50 week on/week off arrangement for our 7 year old but he’s just told me he’s moving house. He doesn’t drive so the commute will be an hour each way involving walking and the bus.

He isn’t easy to deal with at the best of times so I don’t want to start an unnecessary battle. Am I being unreasonable to say I think that’s too much for our child?

he’s already really funny about them doing any kind of activity besides school and he lives 15 minutes away. I can’t help but think he will prohibit any activities if we go to shared and there is such a long journey.

Does he plan on taking your child to school in the morning on an hour bust journey? That seems very impractical.

Hoe much does he currently see your DC?

Yep he is thinking of doing it every other week Monday to Friday. Currently sees them 5 nights in 14

That doesn't sound like it's in the best interest of the child.

I'd suggest every other weekend Friday to Monday (picking her up from school and taking her to school Monday).

She is at the age where she will want to do activities so needs stability.

In that case I think you need to tell him that you don't think it is in the DCs best interests to do that. Any why now he is going further away does he suddenly want to see them more.

I would fight him on it. Let him take you to court.

Send him a very detailed list of dc's current schedule.. Fit in Dr /dentist /haircut /parties etc. Ask him to send you his proposed new schedule for dc and you'll have a solicitor see if it's suitable for your dc.. If not he can see you in court..

Send him a very detailed list of dc's current schedule.. Fit in Dr /dentist /haircut /parties etc. Ask him to send you his proposed new schedule for dc and you'll have a solicitor see if it's suitable for your dc.. If not he can see you in court..

This is what I would do. The fact that "he’s already really funny about them doing any kind of activity besides school" is pretty poor. Does he want 50:50 to stop paying maintenance?

I think so, he’s always been very angry about giving me maintenance and says I’m greedy and children don’t have to cost that much.

A lot of stuff went on between him and me so I posted on here because I’m doing my best to separate out how I feel about him versus what’s right and kindest for our child

You cant deny a 50/50 because you "think" hes too flaky to cope with the potential distance.

As suggested, make it abundantly clear that his household would have to fully accomodate the children, he needs everything at his that they already have at yours, that includes clothes, furniture, entertainment etc. They are his 100 responsibility during his 50%, that includes logistics getting them to/from existing commitments including if they need Dr, Dentist, etc which is presumably near you. You will not be accommodating any "will you take the kids to this appointment " during his time. Custody means custody...

If hes doing it because "kids don't cost much" - let him find out how much kids do actually cost.