Feeling really uneasy- Need Help!

[Glowf]

Name changed for this as I don’t want to identified but it’s a relationship one.

I’ve been with DP a couple of years now , LD but we make it work and we are finally moving in together, I am giving up a lot to be with DP (which isn’t the problem, I knew what I signed up for)
DP (f) is very traditional and when we have spoke about marriage she told me to ask parents. Me also (f) have been planning proposal and after all day trying to get in touch with DP dm (very busy) I finally did get a text back (I did leave message and made call I explained the situation as in I wanted to propose and that’s why I have been ringing leaving said message

I get on well with DP family that doesn’t seem to be an issue. Tonight however on explaining my plans for the future I know what me and dp both want, I was asked had we talked about marriage , I replied saying we had, and the reply was, leave it with me I will have to talk to dp about a few things . I explained I wanted it to kept as quiet as possible which also wasn’t an issue on dm part.

Im now feeling sick with worry, I’ve asked for permission and haven’t got a response other than leave it with me.
Me and DP have an amazing relationship and are very happy, and very much in love even after a few years together and I would love to marry DP but now I’m overthinking because if I’m told by DPs dm no what do I do then? Or to wait? My head is all over the place and I don’t know if I’m being unreasonable or dm is, I just need help

thanks

It's completely mad for a lesbian couple to be asking for a hand in marriage from anyone's parents. (To be clear I am married to a woman). Honestly it's batshit. The 'tradition' originates from times prior to the emancipation of women, where a single woman was baggage and chattle and ownership of her was passed from
father to husband. Her poor mum is probably wondering what the heck the pair of you are doing living in a period drama. What on earth does it mean your DP is very traditional? What tradition? Gay marriage has only been legal a decade or two, hardly time to entrench tradition. The two of you need to have a think about what marriage is and what it's for and how you are going to live as a partnership. Sod the 'romance', how are you going to support each other through life?

@Whatatodo79i agree with you because when we spoke about marriage I did question why I had to ask and dp said it was about respect and tradition i think she means as it would be nice if I asked, not as in we are living in a period drama.
I have been questioning the asking and feeling very stupid in case what your saying is right that dm thinks I’m bat shit. I don’t agree with having to ask that’s why I’m so confused