To wonder if people ever use sex as a way to manipulate or control in relationships?

[ThisDaringOliveTurtle]

I’m curious about people’s thoughts on this. Whether it’s withholding intimacy or using it to get something, how common is it for people to use sex as a form of power in their relationships?

If you read MN, then it seems to be an every day occurrence and very prevalent in all sorts of relationships.

My ex used it as a form of emotional manipulation. Yes.

ExH did this. It took a therapist to point it out and when I look back now and see his manipulation it makes me feel quite annoyed (at one point I was furious but I’ve learned to control that feeling now).

I think it’s more common than people want to admit. And I’ve heard several female friends, when pissed off with their Hs and wanting to teach them a lesson say they’ll just withhold sex for the foreseeable. It’s not a healthy dynamic in any relationship.

Then you’ve got the whole coercive situation going on,

Now I mainly stick to FWB as you know exactly what you’re getting.

well many a women have sex to calm the sperm saturated brain of grumpy haven't had enough sex men.
i'm sure many relationships have a little of this going on.