Colleague has taken a dislike to me and its knocking my confidence

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A few months back a new colleague started she is higher than me and the rest of the team. She has taken a dislike to me and its starting to knock my confidence a bit.
She doesn't speak to me, when she arrives in the morning she will ask other staff how they are/ how their weekend was but I get nothing.
I admit that I am not the biggest of talkers but I try and have a bit of small talk but recently I have found myself becoming withdrawn.
I've never had any problems doing my job and I am confident in what needs to be done and I get on with it but now I keep doubting myself and worrying that I'm doing something wrong.

It is hard, I know. I have had something similar and still struggle with it. My faith has helped me, and there is a wonderful psalm in the Bible that states, "The wise man isn't quick to take offence." I live by that; I would rise above it, whether they mean offence or otherwise. What does it really matter that they think at the end of the day?

Have you spoken to your boss, or another colleague about it? Is there someone you'd be happy to have an informal chat with to ask them their perspective?

I’d walk past and say ‘ mine was good too thanks for asking …’ but I’m in my 50’s and don’t put up with crap any longer after a witch at work was a complete c* to me, bullied me and others, we got together with the union and got her sacked … she had a whole raft of complaints that were upheld and had witnesses … no
longwr will I put up with petty people or bullies

Oh what a nightmare. I had a similar experience when I was younger. But I’m assertive and just straight out asked the bully if she had a problem with me, and if so could we raise it with management. It stopped after that.
You sound quite introverted, nothing wrong with that, and it sounds like she recognises this and is bullying you. Could you speak to a manager, or is there a company anti-bullying policy? I don’t know what sort of organisation it is you work in, most larger ones/civil service should have someone you could speak to about it. Best of luck it’s horrible when this sort of thing happens. I’m sure it’s nothing you’ve done wrong as well.

Giving someone the silent treatment can be seen as bullying. This seems different from talking first to someone who is a friend, for example.

I wish you were not suffering this.

No need for a grown woman to be acting like this. Maybe she feels threatened by you if you are good at your job.

Being bullied for being quiet is unforgivable really.

Enlist allies.

I've just been through 4 years of this with a female manager. She even tried to get the owner to get rid of me by lying to her about things I'd done. Luckily she has gone on maternity leave now and hopefully will be gone for a while. The situation has been hard on my mental health definitely. I'm sorry you've come across one of these types at your work too. It's difficult.