To think it’s disgusting that she’s letting another man play daddy to her son

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A girl I knew cheated on her child’s father when she was pregnant, then got with the man she cheated with. She was allowing this new man around her newborn baby, playing happy families and he was basically raising the kid as if he was ‘dad’. They broke up when the child was 2 and within a month, she was introducing a new man to her toddler. Again, another man playing daddy. She recently broke up with him now the child is 5 and within a WEEK (yes, a week) a new man has been introduced as daddy. And the sad thing is, this new man has kids too, so multiple children are being traumatised by these awful parents.

How can parents prioritise dating over their children? Her poor son is autistic and doesn’t even have the time to mourn losing the father figure in his life before she’s introducing a new man.

Whilst I agree it’s not my life, not my business- am I being unreasonable to think that it’s disgusting when people constantly introduce new partners to their children?

I don’t mean this as rudely as it sounds but … how about just minding your own business? It is absolutely nothing to do with you!

And that is how abuse gets brushed under the carpet

what abuse? She's just dating way too fast.

I don't really understand what the purpose of your post is, other than wanting everyone to gleefully join in and slag off a woman they've never met.

Think whatever you want about her. You obviously can't stand her and that's up to you; you don't need to seek validation from Mumsnet for that. I find it weird that you wouldn't just tut and move on, to be honest.

‘A girl I know’ - How do you know her? Seems like you hate her so why not find a new group of people to mix with.

Op have you ever thought of getting on with your own life.
And let others get on with theirs.

Dating isn't the problem. Allowing strange men she doesn't know to flow in and out of a child's life is very dangerous and has a very high chance of abuse. Not to mention the psychological impact.

It’s hardly “abuse”. And posting about it on Mumsnet to invite judgemental comments is not making any difference whatsoever to the situation.

I disagree, it could easily lead to some form of emotional abuse - and multiple men are a risk of sexual and physical abuse. An autistic child is likely more at risk than a neurotypical child statistically speaking.
Attachment disorder can present and very similar to autism so it is possible that disordered attachment runs deeper for this poor child.
Yes I am judging and I think we should judge in situations such as this. Really poor parenting choices

For heaven's sake, OP, you know perfectly well it's wildly irresponsible. Do you really need to come on the internet and pour out this unhappy woman's dating history to invite general scorn?

It's clearly a very bad idea for a parent to keep introducing new partners to their children too soon. I'd be amazed if any sensible person thought otherwise.

Does the child's bio father have relationship with said child?

Yes she sounds utterly disgusting.

Jeez we might as well cancel mumsnet if that's the case!

Neglect IS abuse. This "mother" is being neglectful.

I totally agree op and it drives me nuts and makes me so sad. There’s a girl I know who posts endless photos of her son sat on the shoulders of her new guy😱 poor kid, he must be so confused.

What’s your position other than someone you know op?
you seem awfully invested

maybe Mn isn’t the place for you!

Even if we all agree she’s a twat, how does it help the situation, you or her kid?

I’m always a bit wary of men who are happy to get involved with a single mother and be introduced to her children immediately. Surely most men would be more bothered about getting to know the woman really well first before meeting the children? I did have concerns like this when an acquaintance with three children revealed she was pregnant and living with a new partner within weeks of meeting him. And sure enough a few years later and she’s uncovered evidence that he’s actually a pedophile.

Agreed!

Like attracts like. She will attract men of a similar trashy calibre to herself. They’re dafties who don’t think things through like normal people.