DH getting in car with someone who had been drinking

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DH just told me this morning how his friend was “pushing it” yesterday since had 4 pints after they had a game of golf and was driving DH and another friend back home. When I asked if he didn’t think that was bad and he shouldn’t have got in the car with him and I questioned why he thought it would be wrong and why I’m so mad, his reply was that “it’s an irresponsible thing to do”, I was shocked he didn’t consider the real reason why I was so mad, the fact that he is a father of 2 young kids (7 & 2) and what if his friend had crashed! That didn’t even cross his mind.

I don’t know what to do. I really don’t know how to get past this, and should I get past this? Is it a big deal like I’m thinking, or no?

Does this matter? There's plenty of stories of cars crashing into houses and gardens when the driver is under the influence. Its not a massive leap to worry about a drunk driver aiming for your home and losing control outside it. What if it were someone else's children in another car in a collision.

If they'd been in the bar I suspect your husband wasn't making the greatest of decisions either. Depends on whether his attitude is one of its no big deal or shit did I really do that.

Is there a list of words that MN will hide? It seems very random.

The thing is, the problem started way before he got in the car with someone who had drunk 4 pints

Why were they even having 4 pints after they're round of golf, knowing that one of them was going to be driving them home. Your husband was complicit in the buying and drinking of an excessive amount of alcohol.

Personally, if you know the friend's name I would be tempted to ring the police and ask them to go round and have a word.

This isn't a small thing, surely you see that. It wasn't merely "pushing it" implying only a little bit over the limit, he must have been 2 or 3 times the limit, and as pp have said, could have killed someone.

I genuinely think if you knowingly get in a car with a drunk driver and they crash then you are complicit and if you are injured that's on you and shouldn't count toward any punishment the driver gets unlike if they hurt an innocent person.

I would be annoyed but I'm not sure I would break up my family over it.

But my reply was to the person who wrote

what if your children were killed by his drunk driving friend!

Implying they thought OPs kids were also in the car with the husband. It wasn’t in reply to any of the “what if’s” you’ve written!

Your husband is a fucking dumbass.

Make sure he gets hefty life insurance.

Were they all stupid drunk? Why not uber? Why drive and risk lives on the road?

He is willing to risk his life and anyone else's on the road with him because he's too stupid to take an Uber or say no to a drunk driving fuck.

Yes... I know! But if they had been in another vehicle, or walking down the street? Not sure why you're speaking for me in another reply, I was in fact talking about 'what ifs'!