To just feel sick of family life

[Alwaysinamood]

I’m 42 and just sometimes wonder what the hell am I doing ?! My DH is 51 and often think we have nothing in common, he’s currently screaming and shouting at football and I absolutely hate it. I often feel like I don’t even like him sometimes and he just annoys me most of the time!!
My DD11 is a complete pain in the arse, ringing me from upstairs saying she wants me to help her with fake tan!! I’ve said no she’s 11 and doesn’t need fake tan and I’ve just changed all her bed sheets.
DS16 is out with friends, has a GF, recently and doesn’t seem to want to do anything with me at all anymore and just wasting his money on junk food and crap, staying up late every night and can’t get up til 2pm.
Sat here thinking omg do I even like my life at the minute?!! Hoping it’s not just me 😩

Maybe start doing something for YOU, taking time out to do something that makes you happy. Your DC are no longer dependent on you (aside from fake tan of course), and your husband clearly has his own interests. Start making your own joy and create your own little life. It's important to be ourselves, not just mum/wife etc.

Thanks, yes I think you’re right. I’m also going back to work full time and have a new job I’m starting soon! I just feel like I exist for everyone else’s benefit !

Your DC are becoming more independent now so I think this is where you start to be a bit more selfish and start expecting everyone to stop depending on you so much.

Start by being less available. Reclaim some space for yourself.

They all clearly are.

@Alwaysinamood I can much relate to your response. I sometimes almost feel trapped by motherhood. My DS is 9, so I've a couple more years to go yet before he's a bit more independent. Always important we make time for just us though. Very best of luck with your new role.

We have different hobbies and one combined hobby too. We both hate football, the screaming will put me off a lot though. No need for aggression and screaming while enjoying something.

Start carving out Your Life. Coffee with friends. Gym and hobbies outside the home. Don't be a salve/martyr. The df won't notice or appreciate. Be out and busy more often not at beck and call. Time to reassess your life. Good wake up call for when they move out.

I often feel like packing my bags🙈