What’s the longest you go without talking to a friend?

[Teacupfull]

Following on from a previous post I made, I was told by MN that I can’t consider someone a friend because I only chat to them a couple of times a year. Even though I’ve known them for 36 years, and we have been closer during that time. Now distance and life separates us, but we keep in touch.

AIBU to consider them a friend?

University friends in particular remain a vital part of my life even though I can go for several years without speaking. As we walk into the room, it's like we've never been apart.

Yes I agree. An old uni friend is in Australia. I haven’t seen her for years now, and keep in touch via FB, but I would jump at the chance to see her if I could.

I have friends I haven't seen in years, but when we do see each other, it is like no time has passed since last time.

Thank you. I thought I’d received a rather harsh judgement previously, but did wonder if maybe I was wrong.

I'm the same OP. I have three non work friends I only see about three times a year as I catch up when I am on leave from work. No mental capacity or time to see them more.

YANBU whatsoever.

I am an introvert at heart, have lost a lot of friendships over the years, life gets in the way (as we all know!)

My oldest friend (from primary school) and I speak maybe every couple of weeks or so and meet up every few months. I prefer my own company and am very much a home bird, can’t stand constant interaction, I find it so draining.

Sorry, I went on one a bit, you are not being unreasonable!

xx

Of course YANBU.
Over the decades - particularly when life is manic with babies / small children and work and studying - it is easy to turn round and realise you've not caught up with someone fore a couple of years or more.
The memories, and the connection doesn't go away though.
As so many others have said, I too have friends I can not have seen for 3 years, but with whom the conversation just flows as if you saw them yesterday when you do get together again.