Today, for instance, we had a bit of fun before I had to get up for a hospital appointment. When I came home he wanted to continue. I had been putting off doing things like watering the dry garden and hanging up the washing which is still in the machine after being washed yesterday so I chose to water the garden. I asked him to see to the washing because it's almost entirely his things. Because I've recently had finger surgery and have severe arthritis in my hip and spine I asked if he would wind up the hose for me. NO, HAVE I GOT ANY. MORE TRIVIAL THINGS TO TALK ABOUT? That went for talking about major work to be done on the house as well. I just feel that it's too much one way and that we do spend a lot of time having fun and games, sometimes all day. He says that I am free to do what I want. How can I feel free and behave as though I am when his behaviour seems to be so dependant on our erotic life?