MIL possessions - AIBU

[momtoboys]

My MIL (92) died in March. Each child took some items from the family home when cleaning out for sale. My MIL was a nice woman with unsophisticated tastes. Think large drunk leprechaun figurines, signs about bodily functions (farts were a particular favorite!) and dancing fish. DH has displayed a few of the items on our mantle so easily seen. My plan is to leave them there until it comes time to decorate for Christmas and then pack them away in the cellar. I have not mentioned this plan with DH.

AIBU to get rid of them then or should I wait until DH decides they should be packed away? I would really like to pack them away now but want to be sensitive to DH's feelings. Thanks, all.

I think if he wants to display some in your joint home, then he should.

Maybe pick two or three of his favourites to have on display and the rest away?

You should both get the opportunity to display items you each want in the home and not have a time limit on that. If he wants them there permanently, then he should asong as they don't take over the whole room

I would do as you suggest. Put up with them until you come to decorate for Christmas & then pack them up & quietly put them somewhere not so easily accessible.

If you husband comments perhaps put them in your downstairs loo (if you have one) & go with a tacky theme in there. I have a friend who does this & puts anything she considers too tacky for general viewing in there. It's a bit of a badge of honour to give her something that passes the 'tackyometer' & goes into her downstairs loo. LOL!

Tell him he can keep one on display - the choice is his! The rest get packed away in the loft…

I'd probably buy a small cabinet and let him display them all together.

Hopefully somewhere out of the way - maybe the hall or something?

Ah this is a hard one! I wouldn’t want such things on display in my home either BUT you risk implied criticism of his recently departed dear mum to be so proactive in removing them. I’d gently start an open dialogue about how he’d feel about moving them to make way for the Xmas decs and see how that goes… I wouldn’t tidy them away without his knowledge I think that’s harsh