My DP used to work in the legal field. I’ve got some stuff I need to sort out with a solicitor, and he’s put me in touch with an ex colleague. I don’t want to say what it is as it’s identifying but the situation also involves him and some joint decision making. Basically it’s a joint discussion/decision between DP and I but me that’ll ultimately be signing.
I don’t really like the solicitor but DP respects him and DP came along to our first meeting and really helped guide me through the process.
I’m due to meet this guy again at lunchtime. I’ve been dreading it.
When I saw DP this morning, the last thing I said before he left for work was “I’m so glad you’re coming with me. I can’t stand this stuff. It confuses me no end and I find Mr Solicitor a bit much”.
It turns out we can’t actually execute what we thought we’d do today anyway and will be delayed a month, but Mr Solicitor wants to meet anyway to talk through some things and to collect some info from me. He isn’t charging us for this appointment.
I tried to push back as I’ve got a busy day, but DP really insisted we go ahead.
DP has just called to tell me he’ll be late as he has a friend who is going through a tricky time and wants a chat, but he’ll join the appointment later. When I asked how late, he couldn’t tell me how long (I asked if we were talking minutes or hours…but he couldn’t confirm).
He said Mr Solicitor would probably use the time to just gather my personal info anyway.
It’s really pissed me off. I cannot stand Mr Solicitor and wouldn’t have chosen to meet him. The legal jargon is so much easier to navigate with DP there and furthermore, any decision making involves us both.
I said I’d very gladly cancel the meeting to a time that he’d be around but he said no, we should go ahead today and he’d just get there when he got there.
We never row but we’ve just had a real shout at each other about it.
Just for clarity, DP doesn’t benefit from pushing me to sign anything or from the situation at all, so there’s no ulterior motive on his part here. He just didn’t think it would be an issue to be late, and I really don’t want to do the appointment without him, particularly with no specifics about how late he’d be.
I don’t see why we can’t cancel the appointment and postpone it anyway, given we can’t even move forward for a month!