To leave her on read?

[wheredidtheremotego]

Am I horrible? I don’t really want to get into the full story as it would take too long. Basically went on a weekend away with friend a year ago. She was nasty, snappy and miserable. Tried to meet up twice afterwards, once after she told me she missed me and there was also an excuse. She also owed me money,

I finally found my self worth, unfollowed on everything, deleted her number and moved on, accepting she was gone and so was my money.

Well over a year has gone by and she’s now messaged to say she misses me. I responded quite bluntly that she caused a lot of hurt and I’ve moved on. She’s now asked to meet up.

Aibu to leave her on read?

no mention of your money?

No.

Tell her to send your money.

That says it all!

I'd just leave her on read. If you ask for the money now she'll say that she can give it you when you meet up. Then she gets what she wants - you meet her. At which point it will turn out there will be some excuse or other as to why she hasn't got your money. Don't let her play that game with you.

Say, 'yeah would love to meet up Sue, SO glad you messaged, could you transfer me that £200 you owe me, I really need it'.

She is either trying to make amends and will pay you back, or she hasn't changed a bit and you won't hear another peep out of her.

BTW her saying I miss you just sounds like manipulation.

It's been a year, you're not going to get that money back even if you do meet up. Chalk that one up to experience and mentally move on.

When you say you tried to arrange meeting up twice before what happened - did she cancel? If so, definitely leave her on read!

I think she used to use “I miss you” as a I’m just going to check she’s still there type thing. And if I ever said she didn’t make effort then she could say she messaged.

Truth is though you don’t miss someone if you can easily see them (we live close) and decide not to.

Doesn’t work on me now though.

she probably wants more money-did you post here before about her