I recently matched with a man on Hinge. After exchanging a few texts, he was ready to ask about my availability for a date, so I informed him that we should have a phone call before making any plans. He agreed and decided to call me that day.
The conversation started off well. I shared a story about my teenage years, explaining how I told my parents one thing but did another. He then accused me of being a liar, saying, “Oh, so you’re a liar too.” He suggested we meet at a bookstore, but when I told him I don’t enjoy reading, he remarked, “Oh, I could tell you don’t read.” Then he told me he didn’t mean it like that, and how it was a joke etc …
I also told him that I was going to California for a month, he replied saying “no one goes to California for a month. I told him that I have family out there so I do it often. He replied saying “yup keep telling yourself that, maybe I’ll believe it”
I know that I am overly sensitive sometimes but I just didn’t find it funny? Especially not from someone I just met, that wants to take me out the next day.
It made me wonder why someone would spend time on the phone with someone they perceive as beneath them. He apologized for his remark but still insisted on going on a date today.
The whole experience felt like a humbling session. Why do men behave this way?