To be fuming with my neighbours

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This afternoon I’ve overheard my neighbours slagging me off, and I’m f&£*ing fuming about it.
a bit of context… we live rurally but in a barn conversion so they are attached to me.

they are older with no children (well adult children), I am younger with primary aged children. We are inconvenienced daily by noise from their house, the drone of their dryer that’s on all the time, dogs barking, loud music (this can be into the early hours), banging from the cleaners, building work in the house or garden.
It disturbs us (especially when I’m on nights and trying to sleep) but we get on with it because that’s what happens when you don’t live in a detached house, and we don’t want to be complaining.
My children are not out in the garden all day every day, but with it being school holidays they are out there playing more often, I bought them a small bouncy castle as they had got outstanding end of year reports.
On nice dry days they’ll go on it and I do try to keep the noise down. But children playing inevitably make noise.

Anyway, I know they were talking about us as after comments such as “it’s ridiculous “ and “constantly up and down” one of them said “who puts a bouncy castle in their garden?” Some of what they said was inaudible but it has me insenced. I feel like just letting the kids run wild.

Not really sure why I’ve posted other than to vent, sorry it’s long and boring!!

Give me some good comebacks!!!

I’d probably be a bit annoyed in your shoes too!

But hopefully they were just getting it out of their system, having a quick moan and then feeling better and moving on with their day. If you’re a considerate neighbour and you can honestly say this is the only real disturbance you cause - well, it’s not a big deal is it? You don’t have it on consistently and it’s a nice thing for the children. Hopefully they feel that way too really and were just venting a bit 🙂 I’d forget I’d heard them too.

I think that's incredibly inconsiderate of them, tbh. I think I'd have to speak to them about that.

If you search hard enough you may find they've written down their thoughts about you and published them to the population of the globe 😉

Ignore some of these stupid comments.
don’t make your children play in silence, it’s summer and they should be having fun. It isn’t anti social for children to play. Neighbours who are loud and play music late are anti social. They’re being entitled and clearly have no thought towards disturbing you.
don’t give them the satisfaction of reacting, continue as you were and ignore them.
my neighbours are Aholes, it’s always best to act unbothered as they enjoy the challenge of being called out.
if they ever say anything to you directly inform them that you need to tire them out as otherwise they can’t sleep with the sound of their music and dogs booming through the walls

Thank you, I appreciate your support especially the tiring out bit 😉

I expected some daft comments on here but I also know there’s an incredible amount of common sense on here too!

I would not worry about what you heard your neighbours say. They are being unreasonable about your children playing. Trampolines are not noisy - just more fun and laughter for kids. Ignore what you heard and if they do complain to you get right back at them about their noise.

Well I’d hate to have to live next door to kids on a bouncy castle ( or trampoline or basketball hoop!)

why not pop round and just talk - say you’re sorry it’s annoying for them and you can understand but also have they ever considered the noise they make ( eg loud music or tumble dryer ) it’s possible they just don’t realise how noise travels ?

Of they don’t modify their behaviour then I wouldn’t be modifying yours

And kids playing out - ok
kids screeching and squealing and parents not giving a shit - not ok and that seems to be the norm nowadays.

I think it’s very quick to forget the noise children can make or the things they enjoy doing in the holidays.

It doesn’t sound as if they meant for you hear so presumably they were having a rant in the same way you starting this thread was you doing the same. I’d just have your offload of how annoyed and hurt you are privately and then not raise it with them. For what it’s worth, many children across the country have bouncy castles, trampolines, paddling pools, various entertainment in their garden. Those children will be making a noise because it’s the summer holidays and they are having fun.

They didn't say it to your face so just act like you didn't hear them. If they were that fussed they'd speak to you about it.