To feel miserable about my life at the moment

[CaraMP01]

I am in my 50's fit healthy attractive, good job, nice house and not short of male attention if I sought it. Sadly my husband has decided he needs a 'break' from the relationship for 3 months. There's no-one else involved and I know he still cares, but he has various issues mainly around his mental health. My family live 100's of miles away, I work full time and have pets so can't just take off. My son is a very successful 30 yr old living abroad but never calls. I've heard he's in the UK this week and hasn't called me or made arrangements to see me. I was a good mum so this is bitterly disappointing. My best friend has cancelled our plans AGAIN and I'm alone bank holiday weekend with no-one to talk to, missing my husband and sad about my son and frustrated with my friend.... I've not seen or spoken to anyone outside of work for weeks. I'm miserable and can see nothing ahead. How can I stop feeling sorry for myself?

Get a pet sitter sorted and book yourself a long weekend somewhere? Tell your friend how you feel, is the friendship worth it iif she keeps bailing? Sign up for a hobby and meet new people? Give yourself a challenge, fitness or something creative? Don’t rely on others, grab life by the balls!

YANBU to feel sad and disappointed in your DS - I would too. As for your friend - god people are so flakey these days aren't they? Is she really your best friend if she keeps doing this? Do you have another single friends who might be at a loose end this weekend? You say you're fit, so are you a member of any social fitness groups? I run with a group and we have a run organised for tomorrow - do you have anything similar? If not, would you consider joining a social fitness group? I really enjoy meeting up with others to run and chat. If the answer to all that is 'No' then I think I'd get out and do something tomorrow on your own - a bike ride, run, walk, go and see an exhibition or a film or just go for a wander round the shops. I find there's nothing worse than stewing at home on my own - it's much better to go and do something to take your mind off things.

You need to make a concerted effort to make other friends . If you have a wider circle it isn’t a sole focus if someone lets you down because someone else will be free . Short term for the bank holiday grab your pet and go explore somewhere for the day , don’t rely on others get out and entertain yourself .

Sounds like you’re in a tough spot OP.

Try and get out of the house every day - even just for a brisk walk or a wander round the shops.

Longer term, I agree with suggestion above to find a social fitness class or other hobby class to help facilitate other friendships. People are often busy so it is helpful to have a few different people to call on when you need to get out and about.