Wills

[Sarah1290]

I need to set up a will but I'm not sure what to do

I'n married 3 children , 1 over 18
prior to marriage I bought a house and placed a good deposit down . My partner later moved in and we married

After he moved in but prior to marriage he bought his mum's house probably about 8 years ago now ( I found out years later ) . He is very secretive about his financial affairs but he bought the house as his mum lived there but it was owned by her nephew following the death of her sister ( who owned the house ) and things were getting rocky

My husband has recently made a will , in which he has put a trust in place so his mum can continue to live there and on her death the money is divided between our children

i am abit shocked as I have always been the one to pay for the family holidays renovations etc as he states he cannot afford things as he paying the mortgage on the house his mum lives in I also regular save for the kid out of my own pocket

all is fair though it's our kids at the end of day that he has put in the will , but this as prompted me to think about my own will

what do I do with the property we now both live in do I leave it to the kids and put him as a trustee or leave it all to him ( which I would of done prior to finding out about his own will )

shamed to say I've not got a will in place yet but I'm trying to get some knowledge /opinions before seeking a solicitor for advice

Trust for kids. He obviously cannot be trusted financially.

My Will puts my share of my house in Trust for my DH to live in during his lifetime. Upon his death, half to his DS and half to my DSis.

We communicate very well with each other and have no secret finances. Neither of us would have made a Will without communicating with each other and discussing possible outcomes first. I think your biggest issue is that your DH has gone behind your back and not really accommodated for you, should something happen. That's probably worth a conversation.

Overall, I'd recommend putting it in Trust so he can live there until he dies or remarries, but so ultimately your children will benefit from your house.

I don’t think it’s outrageous if you died now it would be a free for all for your house probably go to the kids so it’s the same really he could put a claim but there’s no guarantees

You might be married but his idea of life partner involves more of his mother than it does his wife. Not a lot of care and attention being shown to you.

And get some contributions from him for the care and upkeeps of his children. FFS, he’s a clever man. A comfortable life with all his wants and needs taken care of and not a thought or care to uphold his responsibilities in return. Get clever back to him.