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Help! My whole house smells of teenage boys.

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moofolk · 23/08/2025 09:16

Help! My house smells of teenage boy and I don’t know how to make it better. AIBU to think this is not inevitable?

What can I do? There’s three of them. The 17 year old washes fastidiously and without prompting. The other two need reminding, but even straight after a bath or shower they smell.
I wash clothes & bedding more frequently than is environmentally sound.
The musk comes off them and infiltrates everything. Their bedrooms smell disgusting. The fastidiously tidy one less so, but still bad, which leads me to fear I might be being U to expect to be able to change and just have to wait it out. But how long? Until they all leave home?

As I walk upstairs in my house the fug hits. I hate it but also very embarrassed if anyone comes round.

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PifandHercule · 23/08/2025 11:58

Agix · 23/08/2025 09:21

I'm pretty sure I read something once about teenage boys developing an odour that only really affects their mother, and it being nothing to do with how much they wash etc.

I don't know much about it, but hopefully someone knowledgeable about such things comes and explains it to see if it's that.

Fascinating stuff. This is what I found.
Why Teenage Boys Smell (More to Moms)

  1. Chemical Shifts During Puberty
A 2024 study out of Germany found that puberty triggers the production of certain compounds in teens’ sweat—specifically two steroids (5α-androst-16-en-3-one and 5α-androst-16-en-3α-ol) and several carboxylic acids. These give off odors described as pungent: think cheese, goat, musk, sandalwood, and even urine The GuardianScientific AmericanWebMD. Infants, conversely, produce more soapy, flowery scents that moms typically find pleasant The GuardianScientific American. Scientists suggest this odor shift may serve an evolutionary purpose—helping create a subtle distancing mechanism as kids seek independence The GuardianScientific American.
  1. Olfactory Perception Differences
By teenage years, both parents and teens themselves experience changes—not just in biology, but in how they perceive smells. One fascinating angle: women naturally have approximately 40% more neurons in their olfactory bulbs than men. In simpler terms: moms literally smell more sharply than their teenage sons—and often notice odors that their sons don’t even register drmelodyaguayo.com. Does It Really Only Affect the Mother? There’s more nuance to this: Parent–child odor recognition changes with puberty: Research indicates that while mothers can typically recognize and—even prefer—the scent of their child when young, this ability diminishes around puberty. Interestingly, in the case of pubertal boys, mothers are less likely to identify or prefer their son’s odor—but this seems to rebound somewhat in the later teenage years PubMed+1PMC. This isn't limited to mothers or sons alone: Fathers also experience a similar reduction in recognition and preference for their child’s scent during puberty, though the pattern might differ based on gender and other factors PsyPost - Psychology NewsPubMed. Potential evolutionary reasons: Some scientists propose that this waning preference helps with inbreeding avoidance (the Westermarck effect), as puberty marks the transition to sexual maturity PMCNew Scientist. Putting It All Together So, what you read is absolutely grounded in research: Teen male body odor genuinely changes due to hormonal activation of sweat and oil glands, creating new compounds with strong, sometimes off-putting scents. Mothers (and other adults) may find these odors more intense or unpleasant, partly because of their sharper sense of smell, and partly because of how parental olfactory recognition and affinity change during their child’s adolescence. It's not just about hygiene or how much they wash—this is biologically driven and deeply ingrained in how we develop and relate. In Summary FactorWhy Mothers Notice More Chemical changes in puberty New compounds smell strong and specific Olfactory sensitivity Women have more smelling neurons than men Parent-attitude shift Preference for child’s scent dips in puberty Evolutionary role May foster detachment/independence and avoid inbreeding

Puberty makes teenagers’ armpits smell of cheese, goat and urine, say scientists

Research into children’s body odours also found babies smell of flowers and soap, eliciting parental affection

https://www.theguardian.com/society/2024/mar/22/teenagers-armpits-smell-of-cheese-goat-and-urine-say-scientists?utm_source=chatgpt.com

Asuitablecat · 23/08/2025 12:16

Agix · 23/08/2025 09:21

I'm pretty sure I read something once about teenage boys developing an odour that only really affects their mother, and it being nothing to do with how much they wash etc.

I don't know much about it, but hopefully someone knowledgeable about such things comes and explains it to see if it's that.

I've heard this. And also, how our voices become like white noise. Think it's meant to prevent incest.

That would kind of make sense. I've been teaching teenage boys for too many years and even the unwashed ones don't smell as strong as my own. His sister, in contrast, smells like a fairy.

VickyEadieofThigh · 23/08/2025 12:22

Agix · 23/08/2025 09:21

I'm pretty sure I read something once about teenage boys developing an odour that only really affects their mother, and it being nothing to do with how much they wash etc.

I don't know much about it, but hopefully someone knowledgeable about such things comes and explains it to see if it's that.

I think there's something in that theory. I've know several mums of multiple boys who've made the same complaint. I taught in all-boys schools for several years and although walking past their toilets was grim because of the smell, I never noticed an odour issue when teaching classes of up to 30 of them.

Teaching mixed classes in later years - having Y10 or Y11 kids after PE meant the boys tended to enter the room in a cloud of Lynx!

bloodredfeaturewall · 23/08/2025 12:25

store shoes outside if you can.
instruct dc to open windows frequently.
no sprays allowed in our house due to family member with asthma, which also helps.

but yes, there is a distinct teenage boy smell. like a tiger cage first thing in the morning.

Mustbethat · 23/08/2025 12:33

Yep ditch the shower gel and any other fancy scented products.

soap. Shampoo bars as well.

ditch shampoo and conditioner and buy the absolute basic. Slightly different but I ran out of dog shampoo once so grabbed some human shampoo from the bathroom.

next day the dog stank. So I bathed him. Same again the day after, definite dog smell. No matter how often I washed him, dog smell. Went and bought dog shampoo, no smell. Back to only being bathed once every few months. It was wierd.

i haven’t trusted human products since. I think because we shower frequently it masks it a bit, you need proper soap to remove any skin build up.

cannyvalley · 23/08/2025 13:04

grapesstrawberriespleass · 23/08/2025 12:07

This one! https://amzn.eu/d/5euFuv6

If you google persimmon soap and ‘old people smell’ there’s loads about it!

Thank you for sharing. I’m going to get this for the teens.

old person smell,,,,, oh god,,,,, another thing to worry about as I age 🤣🤣🤣🤣

gamerchick · 23/08/2025 13:15

Falseknock · 23/08/2025 10:51

Pour Dettol in the bath that should help with the smell, and give them a new smell.

Please don't make your kids bath in Dettol. It'll give them a complex man.

slumdogminulet · 23/08/2025 13:22

It's always interesting to hear of people's different experiences! I have had three teenage boys and can't relate to this thread at all. I do love open windows though so perhaps that helps, or perhaps I have low odour boys!

Falseknock · 23/08/2025 13:39

gamerchick · 23/08/2025 13:15

Please don't make your kids bath in Dettol. It'll give them a complex man.

🤣

Snowinsummer · 23/08/2025 13:46

Use washing powder & wash at 40 minimum. Every now & again chuck their tops/smelly stuff in a 50 or 60 wash. Don’t overload your machine. Wash bed linen at 60 & make sure you’re regularly doing their mattress protectors, duvets & pillows. Check their shoes don’t smell as smelly feet will transfer smell onto carpets. Mum of 3 boys here - only one is still a teenager!

TheSpottedZebra · 23/08/2025 13:57

Agix · 23/08/2025 09:21

I'm pretty sure I read something once about teenage boys developing an odour that only really affects their mother, and it being nothing to do with how much they wash etc.

I don't know much about it, but hopefully someone knowledgeable about such things comes and explains it to see if it's that.

To add to this, my nephew moved in with me after his mum/my sister died.
I went from finding him, his old bedroom not too bad, to thinking he absolutely reeked.

So maybe it's not just bio mothers who have to find them stinky, but any related adult female/maternal role?

And hooray for pre-soaking socks in napisan.

Letstheriveranswer · 23/08/2025 14:07

I have an adult son at home and same problem. It's just men I think, they have a particular smell. I notice it when any other men eg workmen come to my house as well.

Anyhow I have an essential oil fragrance diffuser outside his room that runs for 3 hours a day and that helps.

justasking111 · 23/08/2025 14:12

The smell in sons room got so bad decided on a new mattress. Lugged it down to the hall. Omg the hall stank within minutes. So binned the duvet as well. It was all impregnated. Smell gone completely.

There was a smell in our room recently so binned our duvet. Again smell gone. It's not just teenage males that produce this odour.

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