Should I be annoyed or am I over reacting

[forevergrateful1]

My boyfriend went out with his brother. He messaged saying his brother has gone home and he’s gone to his old work place to quickly say hi and will be back soon. 3 hrs later he’s not back he’s communicated with me since saying “what did I want to eat” and also said he will call soon alluding he will be back soon but hasn’t.

im mainly annoyed because just say your saying out. If you realised 3hrs deep your still there just tell me you gonna stay out tonight.

he left at 7pm today and said he wouldn’t be out long and would come back with food and shopping. It’s now after 1 and no shops are open.

I don’t know whether to stay awake just in case he gets food from somewhere or just go to sleep and not eat.

He’s a grown man and you’re a grown woman. Have something to eat (you must have something in the house) and go to bed. He can sort himself out.

Always on here people are picking up food shopping etc combined with a night out, I don't see that in RL. As said, eat whatever you have in and go to bed.

@FreyjaOfTheNorth the food is not the reason why I’m annoyed. My post was about him not coming back after saying he was coming back which is why I’m asking if I’m being unreasonable

You should go to sleep. Even if he were to bring food, would you want to eat it at this time? I’m guessing not.

He left at 7pm and said he would be back soon. Shops shut at 11pm on a Saturday. Why is it strange to see in real life ?

And are you saying I’m always on here ?

Just go to sleep and ask him why he’s been a dickhead in the morning

I replied to your other post too.

Sounds to me like a) you’re suspicious / annoyed at your boyfriend for drinking a lot.
and b) you’re annoyed that he didn’t tell you what time he’d be back.

My reading of the situation is that your BF is out on the town and knows you’re going to be disapproving (do you disapprove of drinking / his brother / both?). Earlier in the night he was trying to play it down and had intentions of coming home soon, but by now (possibly after a few too many drinks, or maybe after pissy texts from you?) he’s thought ‘oh fuck it, may as well stay out and have a good night and face the music in the morning’

@kleverklogs I like his brother and his brother had went home hours ago. He is there on his own.

Last week he randomly come back steaming drunk ect. So I get why he didn’t say how much he’s drinking. But my problem is the fact he doesn’t just tell me. If your going out to get drunk then don’t drive and just say your not back. But he saying he’s coming back so I’m here waiting which is what has annoyed me.

@kleverklogs didn’t answer your question on other post. It makes me think he’s had more and he’s driving back over the limit

It does sound annoying, but honestly just go to bed. What are you waiting up for? There is no point. Go to bed and get up on time and have a lovely Saturday, and leave him in bed with a sore head half the day.

If it turns out he’s driven home drunk ( and even 3-4 would be too many for driving) then I would seriously reconsider the relationship. Only irresponsible, reckless and selfish people drink drive.
But deal with that in the morning x

Have some toast and go to bed.

Or get a Deliveroo etc if you want something brought.

He's having a lovely night out, nothing you can do to stop him so just do what you can control.

I'm not sure that drinking on your own until you throw up, then drink driving home, constitutes a lovely night out 😅

My partner likes a pint on his own every now and then, but someone drinking on their own until they throw up needs a conversation about their alcohol intake.

If OPs partner is driving in that state, he needs locking up.

@velmy See the op's other thread. He's not by himself!

But your question is should I wait for food we go to sleep?

Why texted threads, the situation is the same on both.

Why haven’t you ended the relationship with someone who drink drives?