Chuck this one back? WWYD?

[RachelTopliss]

Met a guy recently seemed ok but a bit opinionated. Interesting conversation though. He does ring and message.

I've been out twice with him, both daytime afternoons for 2 hours max. Told me he won't ever be available Saturday as it's sacrosanct for going out with his mates.

2 Saturdays ago was his birthday and he went out at noon round pubs, for a curry and then back to the pub until kicking out time. I'm not comfortable with that.

I suggested we went to a quiz night and he said he'd let me know, then called to say he'd forgotten he'd arranged to meet up with former work colleagues but wanted to see me on Sunday.

I feel it's always going to be like this, WWYD?

Get rid. I had exactly this except Friday evenings he went to the pub with his neighbours and Saturday evening he went out with his friends. The week was a mixture of kids (fine) and various hobbies. After the initial enthusiasm when he did make an effort I was relegated to Sunday evening. It was made worse because on Sunday evening he was ‘tired’ so we’d end up watching tv whilst he made me a ready meal. 3 months in that wasn’t my idea of a relationship that was going anywhere so off he went. It won’t get any better and you need to move on.

Ugh that would be a hard no from me I would absolutely throw him back! Never available on a Saturday night?! That’s the best night! No being tired from work that day and no having to get up early for work the next morning. Doesn’t sound like you’re compatible to me

He’s told you what he wants his Saturdays to be like and has been quite clear he has no intention to change them. Might be worth a candid chat and a trial run to prove he can stick to it, but it’s unlikely he will change as he evidently doesn’t want to.

If you proposed a weekend away would he go? If it was your birthday or a family event, would he go? If you had kids, would he prioritise them?

Too selfish and self-absorbed. Get rid!

Maybe 37 in chronological age, but clearly not that old in other ways 😀 17, I reckon. He's not gonna change, so don't take that on as a project 👍

He doesn't act like it.....

Some PP telling you him saying Saturdays are out of bounds as honest but I say honesty should be given in a 37 year old man so to me it’s di*khead behaviour prioritising every Sat with mates ahead of you.

You know you don’t want a manchild. Thank you but NEXT!

This. Better luck next time

High kick him off my balcony 🦵🕺🏻

😂

Throw this one back

He’s being very up front about the fact that you will always be way down his prioritise list. Can’t criticise him for his honesty I guess.

But he’s a twat. There’s a very good reason why he’s single!

37 years of age and he's told you he will never spend a Saturday with you because they're for his mates?

He sounds like a right knob.

Gosh it would be hard to tolerate from a 23 year old but definately a hard pass at his age behaving like that! Has he had a serious relationship before ?

THB

Urgh never avaliable on a Saturday as out on the lash. Nope

You don’t sound compatible.

My husband goes out at weekends with his mates unless its an important 'occasion'. To be honest I like having the house to myself so I'm not bothered. I know where he is because I know most of the mates. No children as we got together later in life.

If it's not for you, @RachelTopliss just end it now.

I had 5 missed calls from him this morning (I was gardening and left the phone inside) and when I called back he said that he was unwell, he wouldn't be going out with his mates today but would call me tomorrow morning to let me know if he was ok to meet me in the afternoon.

I said I hoped he felt better soon, but he didn't seem to want to chat or allow me to, it was "alright then Rachel I'll call you tomorrow", something seems off.

Oh, I was thinking you were being a bit sniffy about his social life, but at 37?!?
Yeah - another man-child. Fun in a group of friends: terrible partner.

I'm going to see what tomorrow brings from him and then I might call it a day. It's all about getting to know someone and seeing if you're compatible, nothing much wrong with Saturday nights with mates but I wouldn't want that every week in a serious relationship. I'd feel sidelined.

He's told you who he is.
Believe him

If he can't be arsed to spend time with you this early on in a relationship, why are you wasting your time at all?

Bin him off.

He didn't want to chat to you because his wife was likely to walk in OP, surely you can see by now, that he's not the one for you?

He's 37 and his Saturday nights with his mates are sacrosanct? Urgh. Throw him back

I'm wondering about that.

Sorry that was a reply to @Givenupshopping, I quoted the wrong post.