To find people start talking to you more if you have a ‘glow up’

[Gymgirl92]

Apologies for the slightly cringey term!

My partner left me last year and I decided to work on my revenge body, I went from a size 14 to a 10. I then found that I got so much more attention at work, male and female. People who previously wouldn’t say hello to me would suddenly want to chat to me and I just found it funny how they didn’t bother before and as my friend put it, it must be down to the ‘glow up’!

Has anyone else found this to be the case? It seems shallow of people but is that just the way of the world these days..

Nope.

And YABU for 'glow up'

Yes, I've found similar!

I expect it's more a reflection of the fact you are feeling more confident and people are picking up on and responding to that.

Do it for yourself not the likes

If you make more of an effort with yourself then others make more of an effort with you too. Your self esteem and sense of self worth improves, and others see that and react positively.

Yes I’ve found it 100% to be the case - even as far back as aged 13 !!

I went from being a fat 13 yo kid in the 80s when this was less common - to a normal weight 13 year old. Kids in my class who never gave fat me the time of day suddenly started talking to me !

Well d’uh!

YANBU. I’ve lost a huge amount of weight in the last year and people will stop me and compliment me in the street. And that’s at a size 18! I can’t imagine what it’ll be like if I ever get to a size 12

Looks like OP was born in 1992

If this is correct - OP gets a free pass with ‘glow up’ 👍

Yes it’s true, I lost weight a few years ago and suddenly I was no longer invisible and no it was nothing to do with confidence as people try to deny this is a thing!

Yes. People tend to want to be associated with and know attractive people, whether that be personality, cheerfulness, or physical attractiveness.

Of course, when they hear you use the term “glow up” they’ll probably stop speaking to you again, but that’s easily avoided.

You’ll probably have brass bands playing you a fanfare when you exit your local Sainsbury’s !!

Cingratulations tho - excellent achievement 🎉

But they’ll commence speaking to the OP. again no doubt when they hear

slay!

low key

rad .. etc

I don't know why you apologise for using 'glow up', then go on to use 'revenge body'. 😅

Yes. People tend to like people or respond more positively to people who are not only more attractive but more confident, have higher self-esteem and are happy with themselves. You might have improved all those traits from improving your looks and physique.

People often make this kind of comment on this kind of thread, and it may be true in some cases.

But I have excellent self esteem and always make “effort” regardless of my dress size. Losing weight doesn't make me happier or more self confident (healthier though obviously!)

I lost more that 5 stone and suddenly colleagues who had know me for years were much, much nicer to me than previously. Mostly men but some women too.

I notably found I got much between service in shops and restaurants than previously too.

I find it pretty depressing tbh. I’m not a different person thinner, my values and behaviours haven't changed, just my waistline.

I value the people who were always nice to me, always helpful more than those who’ve suddenly decided I’m worth their time.

Yup. This happened to me when I lost significant weight in the past. It’s cringe. But if you recognise it fur what it is (ie fake) then it’s quite funny. Currently on a supported weight loss journey…can’t wait to see who comes forward as the first hanger on to want to associate more. They’ll be the first to be binned completely!!!

What's wrong with glow up? Just trying to keep up with what is in and out with phrases!

That's what I was thinking!

I've never head of 'revenge body' but if it means what I think it does, (that the OP wants to make herself look better to get some sort of weird revenge), then she's obviously after some interest?

I don't know why she's surprised she's getting it.

Revenge body? What a load of balls.

I think there’s definitely a confidence element. I’ve had a big ‘glow-up’ in last year coupled with significant weight loss, and I’m definitely more confident, willing to engage with people and interact, and have more open body language I think, as I feel much better in myself and more confident. I think I was quite closed off before and gave ‘stay away from me’ vibes with body language (not intentionally but the negative thoughts I had about myself were manifesting that way).

I notice this based on whether or not I can be arsed wearing makeup.

What’s the opposite of a glow up? Asking for a reclusive friend.

If you looked and felt confident, cheerful and sociable, then it's hardly surprising people were more interested in talking to you. On the other hand, if I'd started talking to you, the expressions 'glow up' and 'revenge body' would make it very clear that this was going to be a short, one-off conversation.

A “dim down”.