Five years ago my partner and I had a small covid wedding (religious ceremony) and almost a year later we moved in together. He's always been a bit shit with birthdays and anniversaries but I did make it v.clear that this is a milestone (we've had a child together now) so I did want to mark the occasion. I also known him long enough to set expectations low, so I thought a cinema date tmrw evening is about as easy as I can possibly make it for him - I even arrange for my sister to babysit so it can be the first time we've gone to cinema since our 20 month old was born.
He's refused to take the day off work, fair enough so I asked for afternoon off so we can logistically leave toddler with sister for longer. He only finally confirms he's done this yesterday.
I ask him if he's looked at cinema times and he says he doesn't need to, that kind of information is easy to get hold of on the internet and I ask him if there is anything he's done at all as part of making an effort and he said what's the big deal he can check cinema times tomorrow. After I'm annoyed he says obviously he will get a card or flowers...
He now says he would have been happy to try and arrange for his own cousin to babysit and for us to do something closer to his side of the family but I just got in there too quick...
We had talked about taking this particular cousins offer to babysit for over 6 weeks but he showed no signs of actually asking her.
I'm so annoyed.