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to think DH shouldn't send emails to some woman saying "I need cheering up...." when I'm away visiting my mum?

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devonsmummy · 30/05/2008 12:10

Have found a couple of emails that DH (or just make that H, as he's not darling at the moment!) sent to a woman while I was away visiting my mum for a week.

He says in the email that me & DS are away and he's feeling a bit down and needs some cheering up........

The fact he's called her Rachie and the ....... after need some cheering up have really got me.

Am I being unreasonable? I take the ...... as him saying if you know what I mean (nudge nudge wink wink).

In her reply she says she'll be on MSN later and miss talking to ya and ends with love ya loads an miss u like madxxxxxxxxx

He replied saying he'd speak to her on MSN later - the not knowing what was said is driving me nuts.

When I asked who she was he said Just someone's wife that I used to play online pool with he also said she contacted him and that she is married - when from her MSN name you can tell she's seperated. Also found a picture of her that she'd MSN'd him.

Until now I would have said I trusted him with my life to not be unfaithful but now I'm really not sure what to think.

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CrazyMofo · 30/05/2008 12:56

i think it reads as: go to your documents
then recieved files etc..

MissingMyHeels · 30/05/2008 12:57

On my PC it is "My Documents" and then a folder called "My Chat Logs". If it is there you then just click on the one that says the girls email address.

I would be very suspicious if I were you. Why would she send him a picture? V.odd.

FluffyMummy123 · 30/05/2008 12:58

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CrazyMofo · 30/05/2008 13:02

ive just managed to search the history on my comp, just go to your documents, then have a fiddle about its pretty easy

tiredemma · 30/05/2008 13:02

what is the pic of?

I would be willing to listen to his excuses, but would be pissed of if I read a similar email.

VoluptuaGoodshag · 30/05/2008 13:11

Hmmm I'd be suspicious, especially as he is specifically saying that you are away for a week. Sounds dodgy.

Sorry

devonsmummy · 30/05/2008 13:12

can't find any logs - either switched off or deleted!

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Karathraceandherspecialdestiny · 30/05/2008 13:14

If he was seeing her, then he wouldn't say he missed you as that would prob enrage her. I think it's a bit of online flirting - they may have exchanged some initimate conversation. Maybe she likes to be known as 'rachie' by her friends. Sounds like she is keen but he is being guarded by mentioning you.

devonsmummy · 30/05/2008 13:16

He said they hadn't been in touch for a while - but he sent the 1st email surely that gives her the impression he's interested?

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HereComeTheGirls · 30/05/2008 13:17

cut and paste

HereComeTheGirls · 30/05/2008 13:18

or copy and paste, but I see everyone else got there first... ~goes back to chimp's feeding time in the other room~

littlelapin · 30/05/2008 13:26

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devonsmummy · 30/05/2008 13:27

off to shops to buy up all chocolate i can find
and some alcohol!

I hate confrontation but I know I'm gonna have to do it

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HereComeTheGirls · 30/05/2008 13:32

I agree that it sounds like online flirting..which is bad enough but you can nip it in the bud now, and maybe learn from it..very hard for you though I know

HereComeTheGirls · 30/05/2008 13:33

I mean learn as in find out why he did it so you can make sure he doesn't do it again!

LazyLinePainterJane · 30/05/2008 14:05

Did you know you can select to get all of someone's emails sent to your account? Maybe not the best for trust but if you need to know if they still email?

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