I want to leave my husband and kids 6 & 9

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Kids at school, husband’s a nice guy and has afairly good job. No mortgage (he inherited a big house in posh area) I have 2 single friends who have a great time clubbing etc. and I want that, not boring mum.

Do you work OP?

Why can’t you still go out clubbing with your single friends and have other hobbies and interests outside of your family?

Weird post but assuming good intent....

geniune question... what's stopping you going clubbing a couple of tomes a week?

Surely your DH can put the kids to bed and you can join them for a few drinks and go clubbing until 2 or so...

Can’t you go clubbing now with your husband looking after the kids?

im a single mum and it is so expensive to survive. I’ve no money for clubbing.

Do you work. Sounds like you looking for more of a challenge and work could give that.

You’re incredibly lucky but you should still be able to have fun while being a mum.

Why can’t you go clubbing with your Friends and still be a decent mum? Does it have to be all or nothing? However if you really want to up and leave your small kids and husband then that’s your choice, plenty people do it.

I get that it's boring, I regularly have days where I cry at the dullness of doing yet another load of washing, but, honestly, it's just a fact of life! I think you'd regret walking away when, in a few year's time, your friends are no longer going out clubbing because they've got children, or other responsibilities.
Can you not go out with your friends whilst your husband looks after the children for a night? I used to do that all the time -mind you, I'm 51 now and those days are long behind me - eventually, it becomes a bit dull and not so much fun! I think I've kind of grown out of it!

Presuming that you don't actually want to walk out on your kids over this, what's stopping you joining your friends on those nights out?

I'm coming with a heavy hand but do you always have one night stands when you're clubbing ?

How a family makes you boring ....

Are you after endless shags

Today is today of the trash threads ....Lord have mercy

Don't be daft op....nice husband? Mortgage free big house? Kids at school? All sounds good to me.

Surely you can have the odd night out though without throwing your whole life away?

Really?
How would you pay for the clubbing if you left your well off husband and your kids? You'd be paying him child support and your own rent etc as well. Can you afford that?

I don't believe this is a genuine post

Nah, this is a joke, surely??

Well your friends are single, and presumably without children.

Only boring people are bored OP

So you want to put your children through the trauma of a divorce so you can party more? Is this even real?

If it is, then there are factors to consider. Firstly most of life for most people could be described as 'boring'. This won't change for you. You'll be working full time to support yourself, you'll presumably have your children at least half the time (on a timetable you'll need to negotiate with your ex, who might not feel like being reasonable), so you'll need to provide a family sized home and pay at least half the children's expenses on a single income. In other words there probably won't be much that time or money left over for excitement. Your single friends are presumably also childless? So that isn't the life you'll have.

Secondly I'm not clear what's stopping you finding more interest in your life as it is? Why can't you socialise more, take up new interests, look for work that excites you? Also at 6 and 9 your children are moving into a really fun phase IME (mine are 10 and 13 now). They'll be increasing good company in an 'adult' sense, easy to travel with, up for more adventurous experiences you can all share as a family.

Taking this at face value: I go clubbing. I’m 41 and have two children, younger than yours. It’s fine.

Another bored, boring, attention seeking poster🙄

Think all parents find life a bit boring. Adult life is just a bit boring. But we find ways to enjoy it while not abandoning and traumatising the children we chose to make.

So go out with them.
Why do you need to walk away from your children to do that?

Off you go then.

Off you pop then dear

have a good time clubbing, while your husband picks up the pieces.
I assume you are leaving the children with him so you will get considerably less in the divorce, but that doesn't matter...

and I hope you don't find in 5 10 20 years time that the grass wasn't greener...

You can go clubbing now, you don’t need to be single or childfree to do it. Now if you are stuck in a rut and want the excitement of pulling thats different isn’t it. I’m sure most of us hit a bleugh patch but it’s part of getting older.