I'm one of 16 ladies in their 40's on a weekend hen do to Seville next month. My daughter A, will turn 19 on the Saturday I'm away, but had been okay with me going, as she will be starting uni and was going to celebrate with our family the weekend before, and go out with her friends the day of her birthday. However, A's plans have changed because 2 of the other girls will be at sports fixture the weekend of her birthday. She goes out with her best friend often and has been on holiday earlier this year with her. They get on well and are nice company.
I had this crazy idea that they could join us on a slightly later flight out, same hotel but obviously different room, and do their own thing - the hotel is in Plaza Nueva so there are lots of shops, bars, sightseeing, restaurants right on the doorstep.
Obviously, I would drop in on her to say Happy Birthday and get her a little gift, but I was thinking they'd eat together, not join us for meals as it's my friends Hen do after all, and although my daughter has given us lifts from places, they don't know her really well, and don't know her friend at all. I thought they could get same flight back as us though.
I asked my daughter in passing if she liked the sound of that, if it were possible. She said she really did, and that both she and her friend would be absolutely fine doing their own thing.
My question is, is a rude to ask Hen if A can kind of be there? Especially as it coincides with A's birthday? Do you think it's detracting from my friends special weekend by my daughter being there with her friend for her birthday? Am I being unreasonable to put my Hen Friend on the spot by asking?